Hi,

Brand new here. Been seeing therapist for 4 months. I'm male in a long term but unsatisfying relationship with a woman. My therapist is female, about 6 yrs younger than i am.

T and I got on well from the beginning. I started liking her more and more, in every way. A couple months in i got emotional when discussing the chronic illness i am struggling with. She got emo too, shed a few tears, said she was touched. This was earth shattering moment for me. After that was consumed by her. Yes, i believe there is an attachment issue from long ago driving some of this, and there is element of transference.

But i also find her incredibly attractive, cute, sexy, charming. Without knowing details about her, i can just FEEL that i could be with her every day for rest of my life and would be in heaven, not in a maternal way but as a mate. She said she feels strong connection with me, and has shared more details about herself than with most or any other clients.

She's married, couple kids. I told her everything -- that i was madly in love with her, crazy with desire for her, think of her constantly. Its clearly getting in the way of therapy and i took a turn for the worse becuz of the implicit rejection i felt coming from her and the crushing heartbreak of knowing i will never see her outside that room.

But, she is also a supremely great person and i have had strong therapeutic connection with her with real healing potential. I am tortured being near her, but need her support and incredible connection.

Who can relate? Don't know what to do.

Thanks a million for reading.