Hi Affinity,

I can relate to what you're feeling. BUt in my case i have not had any sort of transference feelings with past therapists. I think its because i wasn't ready to expose my deepest feelings, i didn't feel enuf trust or connection to let my guard down, but also i simply did not have the undeniable chemistry that i feel with my current T. When someone just gets you, and vice versa, its powerful. And thats the problem for me, its so powerful that it feels like i'm madly in love.

And who's to say i am not. Framing everything in psych labels and concepts is kinda dangerous. I told my T hey i don't want my feelings (of love for god's sake) to be herded into a little box labeled "ET" or whatever, and then we just carry on, having quickly defined and labeled it.

But i do feel, like you, that this is ultimately about my wounds as much as anything. But thats only part of it.

Thanks.