Hi Affinity,

Yes no doubt the crying was a sign of real empathy. My point was that this, more than any voluntary disclosure or personal sharing, deepened the connection. As for what she has shared beyond the norm for her, i believe it has mostly been of an incremental nature, tho don't know for sure.

I saw her yesterday and she actually brought up that boundaries have become a little too fluid with me. Not in the way of romantic insinuations, but rather things like going over the allotted time, and allowing me to indulge too much. She is going to seek consultation with another therapist on this. As i said previously, i am concerned. But i'm an adult too, and have to be accountable for where I am taking things. We are both struggling, but we are both saying so clearly. Its a collaboration.

Seems like lot of ppl here have been burned in therapy or had bad experiences. I suppose that is what drives ppl to forums like this. But it seems to be coloring the discussion with a noticeable sense of alarm or doom. Better safe than sorry, i know.

But to be honest i feel like my T is actually quite good and i do not feel a sense of impending catastrophe. Problem is i happen to find her enormously attractive and appealing but also unavailable, and its not easy to sit with that time after time, and its causing me to push hard against boundaries, and THAT is the crux of it.

BTW, my T has never done any of the things you list.