Oh, gosh, blue - this is such a hard spot to be in. Inside of me, my limbic system is screaming, RUN, RUN! I have been the "victim" of a boundary-less T and the outcome was painful-painful-painful. Worse than terminating. I know it can be hard to detach when so many of your needs SEEM to be met - but definitely a better choice than waiting for it to play out.

SHE is getting needs met through you, and that's dangerous. And, at some point, she may feel that she can't give the level that she has and it is likely she will drop you like a cold stone. That is brutal to experience.

There are other good Ts who can support you in ways you need, help you grow and help you find your strength.

I suggest interviewing two or three, just to get some different perspectives and to see some different styles. Then choose one and give yourself a trial period, say a month or two. If it seems like a good fit - go for it. If it isn't just what you need, try someone else. This is an important relationship. Don't leave it to chance.

((((blue))))

-RT