Hi Heather, nice to meet you. I'm sorry to hear that you're not getting much help from your T. It's been my experience that therapists find these folks for you. I certainly do that legwork for mine. It's expected because we know the field better than our clients and part of our job is networking with other therapists. In my neck of the woods, therapists use a mailing list to put out to other therapists when they're looking for a referral for someone.

I remember looking back when I was 20 something. It was awful. I had no idea how to go about finding a therapist and I'd get so worked up to make the call. I really resonate how this must be for you.

I guess it might be hard for you to challenge your therapist about this nevertheless, I hope you find a group therapist who's a little more helpful.

I'm also shocked that therapists aren't very communicative over email. Chances are these therapists might not appreciate the importance of a therapeutic connection anyway. That's a red flag to me.

Here's a group site you might find helpful: Find Group Therapy

If you haven't already seen it, I'm hosting a free webinar in late August on choosing a therapist. I'm calling it the The Definitive Guide to Choosing a Therapist Webinar I hope you can attend.

Take care,
Shrinklady