Even when we do self care to manage the "right now" it's so hard not to skip ahead.

My Ts have helped so much with this, as have my anxiety Meds. What I worked on with my Ts was accepting the situation I'm in and allow myself to, at the same time, also not "approve". Let's say I'm going to see my Mom.,, well I have to accept

Have you ever heard when someone dies that the last phase of grief is acceptance? I've looked at my catastrophizing that way.,. I'm grieving the future whether it will be how I think or not. What I do is try to remind myself it's okay to be powerless, sad, frustrated because I in no way approve of what is going on, but I'm in the situation and it's real and all I can do is what I can do and try to let go of what I can't.

I still struggle, but it's the best I've got. It can be very hard to think these things when we also feel very intense. I am blessed with a very obnoxious internal observer, and that helps a lot.

I feel like I'm making it sound "easy"... Or not be supportive but I do completely understand the intense pain of this, and when we are triggered of course we want to plan for the worst to keep safe. It takes time, and we can only be patient.