emerald -

I'm one of those HB speaks of. I was seeing my son's T and then when he was referred to someone else, I had to be too because of insurance coverage. I last saw her professionally a couple of months ago - it was and is one of the hardest things I've ever had to go through, but I'm making it.

I am working with a new T who is totally different and there seems to be no transference or attachment... I don't think I could take the double whammy right now anyway so this is a good thing. I still see my son's former T on purpose (we both were involved in starting the same monthly parent support group) and on accident (she works at my son's school and it's a very small town).

I just saw her yesterday and got an email from her earlier in the week (a very innocent email with nothing major or even personal) that sent me back to where I was a month ago. I'm kind of upset today thinking about what I'm missing, but I do realize that I am lucky that I get to see her. Your T has offered to see you in the future and I would take her up on it. It might be helpful if you can actually get a sense of when that would be, so you can plan on it. It may make the transition go more smoothly.

I understand how painful this is, and you're right, it does feel like abandonment. But you have to remind yourself that it really isn't. I like what JM said about that - I couldn't say it any better.

OW