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Hard to deal with that one. It's such an intimate and intense relationship. I just really don't want to mess up this termination. I want it to be successful for both of us.

I don't blame you. Especially for a _long_ term therapy relationship, I can't imagine it ending any other way. I just keep finding myself siding with the whole idea of "But this is your therapist, YOUR T! It HAS to work out." My heart is reeling for you and the complexity of it all. I have to ask though...and not to cast doubt on YOU SD. But is it possible that the shift is lying in what happened to re-traumatize you and to shake your foundation with your T? I mean it seems that you express that everythng was fine up to then, Forgive me if I am way off, but I can't help but wonder. I know that T's are fallible and her feelings for you very well could be getting in the way. But I am a romantic optimist when it comes to T's, especially ones with whom we already have a good working realtionship with.

I hope you don't mind my boldness. It isn't to suggest that you have no basis for your feelings, because you do. I hope my previous posts have displayed that belief in you. I just want this to work out for you. But I am very impressed that you are willing to bravely do whatever it takes to do what is best for you, even if it means moving on. You're very brave.