So, since transference feelings with T are particularly strong right now, I went searching around for more info on what to "do with" these feelings. Other than me making note of them on occasion, T and I don't really discuss them. If I had my way, how I feel about T and therapy would probably be all we talked about in session, LOL.

Anyway, I randomly came across an article (cited below for reference) that had exercises in it, which I found interesting, although I haven't had time to fully attempt them.

TRANSFERENCE

Pre-exercise status:

Feel your body. What do you sense -- specifically. Where do you feel warm/cold, tense/relaxed, big/small? Are there places in your body that seem to call to your attention or disappear? How is your breathing?

How are you feeling emotionally? Sad, happy, content, angry, anxious, horney?

Transference Exercise #1

Picture your own therapist -- if none current, your last one.

* What do you sense -- specifically -- in your body as you look at him/her?
* Where do you tense, relax, become warm, cold, feel bigger, smaller, etc.?
* Does your breathing change? How?
* What do you feel emotionally as you look at him/her?
* Does your body want to move as you look at him/her? How?
* What happens if you follow the movement?
* What fantasies or other pictures come to mind as you look at him/her?
* If this person was an animal, what animal would he/she be?
* What animal would you be interacting with this person's animal?

Transference Exercise #2

Using the same therapist:

* What do you like about him/her?
* What don't you like?
* What does he/she like about you? Not like?
* How is he/she like you? Different?
* Who does he/she remind you most of? How are they alike? Different?

Transference Exercise #3

What have you learned about your relationship to your therapist? What would be worthwhile, or necessary to share with your therapist?

(Repeat Transference Exercises #1 & #2 with each therapist you have had.)


From http://www.toddlertime.com/mh/...e-transference-2.htm