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(((AG))) My T has never deliberately humiliated me, but he did once say something on the phone near the beginning of our relationship that sounded belittling in my ears. (I can't even repeat it because of the amount of shame it provokes.) I know he probably said it to try to lighten the mood at the time, but I took it in a bad way. Every time I think about contacting him outside of session, I hear these words in my head and stop. I haven't talked to him about this because it feels like the shame might literally kill me.

(((Very Hopeful))) I don't think I could hug my T, but a handshake would be ok. I have session in just a couple of hours and I already feel like hell. This one is going to be tough.

4/28/148:10 AM

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