Reply to "Transference hell"

I find hitting it over the head with a large stick can be helpful.

Sorry I joke, but I know it can feel well-nigh impossible to speak when the shame monster is prowling, but try to remember that the shame is not really yours... it belongs to the people who abused you and failed to protect you. And from everything you've said, your T sounds really solid. It truly sucks, but the only solution I have found to shame is to do the exact thing its telling you not to do, which is to speak about it. But you have already proven yourself very courageous and I think you'll find the strength. I hope it goes well and please let us know!

AG

PS Thank you for the reassurance, happy to know I didn't overstep.

4/30/148:08 AM

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