Hmmm...Does it feel odd to feel this way about my T? You bet.
At first I was faced with the fact that I know absoultely nothing about this woman and yet I loved her. I have been very uncomfortable with my feelings toward her erotic and maternal. After all I'm not gay, and she is not my mother. It felt obsurd to say the least and I critisized myself for feeling this way. It took a _long_ time to come to terms with and accept my transference love for her, of which I _still_ struggle with. I think I've said it before that when I am sitting there in her presence and I have all I can do to keep from climbing on her lap like the little child I feel like I am, it gets pretty uncomfortable. She's maybe 10 years older than me and I find no reason why I should feel such a maternal pull for her other than the trust and initmacy that comes with the territory. And to know so little about our T allows us to determine how they fulfill our "ideal" maternal or paternal needs. While they must offer some authenticity they need to leave enough for us to fill in the blanks, so to speak. So I'm not so sure if it is about "dealing" with it as much as it seems to be about just working with it and going with the flow.
Did that answer your question? Or did I totally miss it?