The links about attachment and trauma seem really interesting, but I guess I'm still trying to work through/accept that what happened was "trauma", so it's hard to see a lot of this stuff applying to me.
A typical example of this: I tell my T about an incident that happened at home not too long ago. He's like - you know that that alone would be traumatic, right? (I paraphrase heavily). I'm like - Um, .... no. *looking at the gaping abyss below* That can't be trauma. If that's trauma then... *quickly hurries off the scene*
Most of the stuff I've seen about "what is trauma" is about combat vets (which I'm not) or natural/terrorist disasters (which I haven't experienced). I'm having a hard time fitting what happened to me into "trauma" that way. It just doesn't seem like it's that bad - and since it's the whole way I grew up, and I don't remember a time it wasn't that way, it's _really_ hard to imagine that that counts as traumatic in any clinically meaningful way. But I trust the Tfella, so it doesn't seem reasonable to disbelieve him.
And JM, I appreciate the congrats. I'm trying!
