
Meta,
I'm really glad it helped. And as far as your 13, it may help to think of that part of you as one of YOUR children and how would you treat them if they were feeling that way. Our feelings of shame and being too much are part of the injury that was done to us, but those feelings are not there when we think of other people, so it's a good mental trick to clearly perceive how we should have been and should be treated now.

AG