I totally understand the gratitude thing. A concrete example would be - I'm grateful, every time that a student comes to me with despair, devastation, disconnection, numbing, fear, self-doubt and self-loathing, that I can say to them - yes, yes. I see you. I understand that feeling. And this is how I'm working on that.
I'm not grateful for what happened. I'm grateful that I am who I am, that I have the (increasing) skills/abilities to manage being me.