Reply to "Why protective of T?"

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For me its a combo of core shame, huge fear of intimacy, but more that my primary caregiver (mother) was an abusive alcoholic who emotionally raped me. It was my job to take care of her. If I failed to ensure HER needs were met; or if I over burdened her to the point SHE was overwhelmed, MY life would be at risk.

For me, taking care of others - as well as believing I WAS THE PROBLEM and had to ensure I did not over burden her, was a matter of sheer survival.

maybe its similar for you? Did you feel growing up that your parents could not cope and so in order to create some sense of Stability you internalised 'I must not express I have needs'?

7/10/1412:42 PM

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