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Re: Overwhelmed
Hi Jones thanks - I find Clarissa Pinkola Estes to be inspirational. I have been learning how to grieve and cry lately so it seemed appropriate! Hey TN - hope that I get the opportunity to help others while I am being helped myself. It is just great to find you all glad that you like my siggy line, she is truly an inspiration for those of us with scars on our souls! Hey Morgs - yes, you hit the nail right on the head, I am very attracted to him, I think that is one of the reasons why I asked...
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LG this is such a fascinating thread. Both of my male Ts are in their 50's. I think it's a good age because they have a lot of experience (or should have!) and they are not so old to be near retirement. Anyway, that is my take on the age factor. First ... oldT... there is nothing that logically would attract me to someone like him. He is not my usual "type" of guy. When I first met him I was like.... gee I wish he were better looking" LOL. Famous last words. Everytime I saw him he just got...
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My 1st T was 33, dark brown hair, brown eyes, dark complextion but very pretty, short, very petite and she had a captivating smile. She always dressed very neatly and stylish, usually a skirt and pretty blouse but also wore nice dress slacks and casual blouses. She wore nice jewerly and ear rings, not much make-up but then she really didn't need it. My current T is 60 about 5'2, beautiful complection, fair skin, blue eyes, short hair (wash and comb style), slight graying, wears small jewlery...
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Interesting and slightly scary thread Draggers love the seed you've planted - can't wait to see if it works I'm not sure I'd cope if my T read anything I wrote here - not that there's much personal stuff but love that yours uses the site as a check up for you - she really is lovely and caring My T would have to be a little older than me - maybe late 60's but I think early 70's and is a total braniac with so many degrees - how she raised so many children is beyond me Gray fine hair in mid,...
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What a neat thread. MY T is in her 40's and dresses very nice. She has long brown hair. My D just turned 50 and is tall any dresses very stylish. She has long blond hair and green eyes. I would consider them pretty not just from their appearence but what's inside their soul. PG
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I probably only wear makeup half the time, even though makeup is my number one hobby and love! Covergirl LashBlast Volume waterproof mascara is amazing by the way... And for eyeliner Bobbi Brown long-wear gel liners are incredible.
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Hey Mac thanks for the Bobbi Brown tip. You know when I first saw your screen name I thought of M.A.C. cosmetics! TN
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We are long lost twins separated at birth, Mac! I wear that brand of mascara AND the BB gel liner!! I love it!
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Re: Anyone watch 'Ted Talks' - This one is incredible
NavyMe, Seriously awesome talk and her book was really good. There's an older thread where I posted a link to this talk. Brene Brown: The Power of Vulnerabilty I sent this to my T and he found it very powerful also. AG
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Re: EMDR
Thanks STRM T works alone. He is a doctor and has been doing T work for 30 years. I would not even know how to go about a consultation. But we are going to talk eventually- not this week though. I repeated your quote because the darkness is where the angry girl lives. The one that lashed out at T, the one that he says scares him. If this is so, why does he still want to go there? I don't get it... no good will come from checking her out. I will hurt T and push him away if he explores the...
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Re: Hello Peeps
An Early Good Morning Peeps - The dogs have me up for a quick dash outside and a gobble of chow, so I thought I'd stop in to say mornin'. If I'm lucky, they'll let me go back to bed for a little more snooze. "Empathy’s the antidote to shame. The two most powerful words when we’re in struggle: me too." ~Brene Brown Have a good day, y'all. Red Tomato
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Re: Hello Peeps
Morning Peeps! T & Pdoc appointments today. And maybe I'll go to an OA meeting tonight. Didn't get all of my chores done yesterday, so there's a little catch-up (ketchup? .. RT) to be done. I'm eating raisins in my oatmeal with brown sugar this morning and listening to the incredible news out of Cleveland Ohio about the three women who were in captivity for ten or so years. How does someone survive that? Reminds me to be grateful for the life and freedom that I do have. I am grateful for...
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Re: Hello Peeps
G'morning Peeps - I want to say thanks to all of you out in Cafe Land who have given me such wonderful support over the last several days. Last week was the worst week I've had since my mother died last year. I don't think I would have gotten through it all without you guys. Not that I'm through it, but I'm still here. So hugs to... (((((EVERYBODY))))) And special shout-outs to True North and Addy for seeing me through the darkest moments. Graci. This week I want to be mindful of courage and...
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Re: My T quit with me today
ok i am thinking about this and will get back to you as i decide what to do. I just have to think. You all bring up very good points. I just don't know if i can trust a man. One time a long time ago. (over 20 years ago) I lived in a half way house. I had come out of an abusive family and the depression was debilitating. I was physically weak from it. There as a male counselor there who I got to know very well. We would stay up and watch movies together and we talked together a lot. He was a...
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Re: Does Your T Know You Post on this Forum?
STRM- I am sooo rolling on the floor laughing about much of your post. I will carry your words in my heart today- be remined and laugh- "I can hear her speaking, but it comes out all wonky like Charlie Brown speak. " I was thinking about the teacher voice when Charlie Brown is in the classroom "Whaa, Wha, Whaaaa" "Oh well, I will settle for my rock " She really gave you a rock?" Hmmm... "I know my T cares about me. Not just because she HAS to because I'm paying her, " If you want to learn...
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Re: xx
Great thread This is funny - my P was the same way. He didn't always wear the exact same shirt, but I counted and I think there were only 5 different shirts and 3 pairs of pants. Always the exact same shoes, though, which drove me crazy and not in a good way (dorky brown middle-aged-man lace up sensible shoes - I couldn't believe it when I found out he was gay. Those are some serious zero-fashion-sense heterosexual man shoes.) I was impressed that he never managed to wear the same shirt two...
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Re: Trying to glean some hope...
oh, no...Butterfly, you are not being thick at all! SD is just my shorthand for Spiritual Director/Direction. A priest who is helping me to tackle some of the self-hatred and despair and learn to view things and practice my faith with a bit more love, mercy, tolerance for myself, permission to heal-...all of that. Interestingly, it is quite easy for me to extend that to others from my heart, even though I have strong views on relative truth- (I don't beleive truth can ever be relative, as...
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Re: Can someone help me?-so Confused!!
Hello everyone- Just an update- T txt me, because I never made an appointment, I ttxt back and told him I was having trouble making the appointment because of unfinished stuff between us, and that I am paying for my husbands therapy. I told him that there are important things (unfinished business) we need to discuss, but I would rather avoid everything at all cost if that were possible ("...everything in me wants to run for the door instead.") He replied-with the challenges involved in the...
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Re: T questions...
1. Does your T yawn in your therapy? Thoughts? Yes, but only when I'm his last session. He apologizes and it doesn't bother me, other than it being contagious. 2. Does your T admit when they are tired? Thoughts? Yes,because I pick up on it and can sometimes think it's about me. I'm glad he admits it, but I also do this automatic "I can go" thing, though I will find SOMETHING to say that about no matter what. 3. Does your T act different at different times of the day? Not really. He's pretty...
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Re: Stone the motherless crows....
That put a smile on me dial. Cold as a frogs tit- nippy/freezing/Melbourne in winter Shit for brains- dumb as Quick as a lizard drinking- pretty fast Drop the gut- do the bowel/brown eye/eye of the pie Holy shit- wow/goodness gracious me Effnik- foreigner Sick as a dog- crook/unwell Ear flapping- listening Bump of the gums- talk Gonna went- will leave Built like a brick shit house-big and strong Offski- leaving Dead Set- determined/really/fair dinkum Knock block off- remove head from...
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Re: vulnerability
I think when deciding how vulnerable to be, you have to consider A) how worthy of hearing the vulnerability is the present company? Are they likely to honor it or shame you for it? and B) how far beyond your own comfort zone are you willing to go? Even if you made a good choice though, you can still get a "vulnerability hangover" as Brene Brown has termed it. In other words you feel awful in the wake of sharing something. I guess over time though, if people respond mostly positively, you...
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Re: Saw my T while I was working!
(((Rachel))) yikes! That definitely sounds awkward. I ran in to my T at a restaurant too (we were both eating though - still freaked me out). Right now I live extremely close... Very very very close to T1 and work very very close to T2. I can name anything I'm near and they'll know exactly where it is, etc. It makes my life hell trying to hide from every white SUV, black SUV or brown Chrysler I see. It's like 100 heart attacks a day. Ts need to do what all my elementary teachers did which...
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Re: emoticons
Me too! And all the colors have changed. Where I used to see orange, now I see yellow and different shades of brown. Weird.
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Re: Guilty - Have you told T?
RT, Sorry for the hijack. About to start a PM with someone the simplest way to do it is to click on their username in one of their posts (but make sure you're logged in). A brown drop-down menu appears. Select "Invite <username> to a private topic." This opens a reply window identical to the one used on Open Forum. Hope that helps. AG PS I'm on my iPhone. On a regular computer it might take a right-click (click on the right-hand mouse button instead of the usual left) to make the menu ...
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Re: Morning Peeps - 2014
Morning Peeps! This may sound like a rant - okay, it is a rant. I am freaking tired of being the local bank. I have let us get into the position of being deep pockets for my BIL and our dog sitter. I’m not talking about annoyingly small amounts like $20 or $50. Let’s start at $500 and go up to $2350. A recent loan of $900 to the dog sitter for “rent is due tonight” is being paid, though not on the promised schedule. A previous loan for $1200 is being worked off through dog duties, although...
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Re: Morning Peeps - 2014
Morning Peeps – Vulnerability. I hate it, hate it, hate it. I want to stay in my safe spot – the place where I know what will happen next, even if “next” is something horrible. Isn’t the known better than the unknown? Maybe. Maybe not. I think what occurs, at least for me, is that when moving from the known to the unknown, when we dare to do something differently, we put ourselves into that vast land called Uncertainty. There can be so much discomfort there, we go to great lengths to avoid...
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Re: Morning Peeps - 2014
Morning Peeps – It’s Sunday, and I have a confession. Although I’ve been posting Morning Peeps since January 1st, it hasn’t been until this past week that I started reading other threads. I couldn’t jump back in 100%, writing MPs, reading discussions, responding. I knew it would be too much, but I wanted to peep. In the past, I harshly and irrationally judged my self-worth by the way in which I perceived other forum members interacting with me. It triggered a LOT of anxiety in me. It got so...
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Re: Morning Peeps - 2014
Morning Peeps – Some questions will always be hard to answer. For instance, why do bad things happen to good people? I think there are three possible answers: It’s fate. It’s karma. It’s random. To decide between the three, I must first determine who (or what) I think is in control. If the control is within me, then I believe in karma. There is a specific link between what I do and what happens. “What goes around comes around.” If the control is outside of me, then I believe in fate. Fate...
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Re: Morning Peeps - 2014
Morning Peeps - I'm enjoying the out-of-season delectable-ness of lightly sugared blackberries. It brings a much needed sweetness to my life. Trouble in paradise. Sadly, sadly true. Anger. It has turned into a monster, and she has been getting bigger and scarier. She attacked Monday morning, screaming, raging. It was the worst ever, and Little Me sought the smallest place to hide - the shower stall, cowering, crying - even though the beast was gone, left for work. Not safe even then. The...
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Re: Help locating the title/author of book on these boards
Hi Azure, I wasn't sure if I could find it using that description but have two suggestions. The first, and forgive me if you already realized this, is did you check the Book Forum ? That is not the only place that books are mentioned, but there are a lot of books in that thread, including threads where people ask for book recommendations and get a lot of suggestions from other members. The second would be to do an advanced search and hunt for posts which contain all three words...
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Re: Mini eCourse
I did part 2 this morning and do you remember in the Peanuts comic strip when Lucy would play the psychiatrist, and she would finally get something Charlie Brown said, and he would scream "THAT'S IT!" so loud she would do a triple somersault? That's what I felt like going through this lesson. It captured something I've been struggling to pin down. This feeling that imperceptibly I've moved and now find myself in a new place that feels like its got a lot more space. Awesome lesson. 'Cause I...
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Re: Attachment Books?
Thanks Waterlogged, you jogged my memory. Yaku, I would look up "David Wallin" and "John Briere" on Youtube, both of them have talks available. John Briere is an expert on healing trauma and touches on attachment also. I also found a couple of articles I had that I've attached to this post. Great interview of David Wallin on Psychotherapy.net David Wallin on Attachment and Psychotherapy
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Re: Suggestions on books written with a lot of therapist/client sessions?
TMC~ I love your quotes. "Rising Strong" by Bren'e Brown is decent, and I just loved "Wild" both the book and the movie.
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Re: Suggestions on books written with a lot of therapist/client sessions?
I'm glad you like them Mayo Brené Brown is like my favorite author
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Re: uplifting quotes
"You believe less so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together." ~Unknown~ "Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light." ~Brené Brown~ "Never sacrifice who you are just because someone has a problem with it." ~unknown~ "You are not a mistake. You are not a problem to be solved. But you won't discover this until you are willing to stop banging your head...
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Re: GOOD MORNING VIETNAM
KMAY, glad you are feeling better today than yesterday. 80 degrees? That's sick! I thought California had only 2 colors: brown and green. Can you tell I'm jealous? I LOVE California. CAT, Thanks! I hear you loud and clear all the way from here.
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Re: Venting...I don't want this anymore.
UV - sweet for you to call me Kiddo. Wish my T would do it again. Oh, no, I've been seen! Yeah, I call my "executive" part the intellectual or observer. That part and my caretaker part are responsible for at least 90% of how I interact with the world, usually. There are parts of my personality like playful/humorous parts that are pretty cooperative with nearly any state too, though. Ugh, I still feel embarrassed admitting how I divide myself up. Yes, this makes a lot of sense. Feeling myself...
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Re: The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
Did you watch the video link that AG posted that Brene Brown did? It's in the Science section. She wrote the book. Here is a description: Human-behavior researcher and author of I Thought It Was Just Me (2007), Brown has made a career out of studying difficult emotions such as fear and shame. In this latest book, she emphasizes that above all other ingredients of living an emotionally healthy life is the importance of loving ourselves. In the grips of what she took to be a breakdown, or...
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Re: One year ago today... *Update: gave T a gift.
(((Liese))) (((Broken))) (((TN))) Thanks for the support and wishes on my "anniversary." So, it was both good and bad. So that I wouldn't chicken out of giving it to him, I took it out when he was doing his bathroom/tea break between clients. He had already turned off the overhead lights and turned on the lamp on his file cabinet. I stuck the monkey on his chair (which he never uses with me now, because he sits in the chair meant for clients, since it is easier to move to the floor from...
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What a fun thread. How did I miss this before? I don't recall my T commenting much on my appearance during the first year or so that we met, which was probably fine with me back then because I wasn't ready to be "seen." But now I can think of several times when she has made comments over the past 10 months or so. She will notice if I do something different to my hair, or she will sometimes say "you look nice today" or she'll point out that we are wearing something similar and say "great...
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Re: Sock Animals
Awww, thanks you guys. I am making a little brown bear right now. Once I find the right eyes, I will post.
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Re: Sock Animals
Here is the brown bear. I couldn't find the eyes I wanted (golden yellow) without going back out to the store, so he has blue-green eyes. I gave him as a gift for the exchange at my family's. They ran late and Boo was going to miss her bedtime, so I left just as they were starting, giving my number to my niece...so I don't know who he ultimately went home with. (IMAGE REMOVED FOR IDENTITY PROTECTION - SORRY!)
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Re: Describe Your T's Office
Ooh, cool thread. These are fun to read. My T's office seems loosely inspired by a Victorian library. There are two floral patterned wing chairs on opposite sides of a coffee table, with a rose colored settee on a third side. This seating cluster is in one corner of the room, in the corner diagonally across is T's large oak desk and a couple filing cabinets. There are several bookcases filled with brightly colored books, potted plants, and some knick knacks scattered about. The walls are a...
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Re: What colour are your T's eyes?
I have the same problem Eliana. I think they're brown...lol. A few times I have also made a mental note to notice, but I never seem to be able to in the moment. Maybe next time...
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Re: What colour are your T's eyes?
Her eyes are this really beautiful blue-green that change color depending on what she's wearing. I have pretty good eye contact with my T anyway but I find myself sometimes just staring at her eyes cos I'm so fascinated with the color. I love colored eyes since mine are just a really super dark brown.
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Re: What colour are your T's eyes?
I have no idea!!!!! Heck. I am so scared and nervous when I look straight at him that thinking or noting eye colour is way beyond me. I am going to ask him when I next see him. I suspect they are grey blue, as if they were brown I would have noticed - maybe? I notice his shirts and trousers and I notice his shoes, since I too look down a lot. And I know the window and what is outside it, in GREAT detail. He even let me take a photo of him over a year ago and I can't tell from that, either. I...
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Re: Old Thread renewed - Friendship Question (update pg 3)
R2G - I'm really happy for you that she called! Thats great! Ok now I told you Liese started the belt thing....so this one might just be below that belt in more ways than one.... and the answer is .....scrub your brown eye. Probably more of a guys joke, still I've always thought it was funny.
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Re: "These are a few of my favourite things..."
1. Horlicks 2. Van Morrison - Brown eyed girl (not even a song from my era, but it makes me happy?!) 3. "(B2W) it's not your fault" My whole life I believed it was my fault, so to hear that was extremely powerful. 4. A miniature doberman called Caesar. Looked more like a black olive on a caesar salad if you ask me O mighty Caesar! dost thou lie so low? Are all thy conquests, glories, triumphs, spoils, shrunk to this little measure? (3.1.148) 5. About 4 years ago sprinting in a race and...
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Re: "These are a few of my favourite things..."
1. Twinings Earl Grey Tea 2.This will be an everlasting love by Natalie Cole OR the Hallelujah Chorus from Handel's Messiah (I beg of you mercy, it was hard enough picking only two ) 3. Me: Why would you possibly love me? T: You let me. 4. Sinbad (he was our Newfoundland and LOVED to swim. Newfs have webbed feet and he would tow you into land if you held on to him.) 5. Having a mother call me back on the crisis line after I talked to her daughter and thank me while crying for helping her...