Morgs,
Oh my goodness. I'm sorry that you feel that way. I certainly don't think it is intentional at all. I sometimes will call out individual posts and sometimes not. It has nothing to do with who posted them but rather whether I feel that I can contribute something to what was said or have something relevant to add or support. So, if you've felt ignored by me personally, I apologize. It was never my intent to ignore anything that you've posted.
(((hugs)))
I just checked in on this again - sorry to have kept y'all in suspense, but yeah, dishy means... I honestly can't bring myself to write 'hot' here - it means good-looking. Thanks for clearing that up Mac & TN!! He looks sorta like a catalogue model for a men's casual clothing or medium-range watch line, which I just think is a bit silly for a T. He should cultivate more of an ugly-but-appealing thing, that would work better for me. Added to that his background is in a real knight-in-shining armour field - I reckon his week is just devoted entirely to helping smitten ladies through their transference agonies. Fortunately I will be immune to much of his power, as that sort of good-looking is not generally my thing. 
Morgs, I'm sorry you're feeling left out. I had a look at the thread to see if I could see what you're seeing, and to me it looks like most are just writing their own thing, rather than responding directly to others, except where there's a particular question or idea they want to pick up on. I bet if you went through and counted how many other posts are not directly acknowledged you'd be surprised. Not trying to dismiss your feelings though - it's awful to feel invisible and I'm glad you spoke up.
J
Morgs, I'm sorry you're feeling left out. I had a look at the thread to see if I could see what you're seeing, and to me it looks like most are just writing their own thing, rather than responding directly to others, except where there's a particular question or idea they want to pick up on. I bet if you went through and counted how many other posts are not directly acknowledged you'd be surprised. Not trying to dismiss your feelings though - it's awful to feel invisible and I'm glad you spoke up.
J
Hi Morgs,
I'm pretty sure you were referring to me here and I just wanted to say that I'm really sorry I hurt your feelings.
I don't know if it helps to know this, but I wasn't "refusing" to acknowledge you, and I certainly didn't mean to treat you as invisible...I did read your post, too (the one between STRM's and Jones', which I see you've now deleted)...it's just that it seemed like you were just echoing the basic idea that STRM started. I've done something very similar on other threads...just briefly popped in and said "Hey, me too!" and had people respond to the original thread starter, but not me. So I do know how it feels, and when that's happened I've been tempted to take it personally, but then I remember that people here are very kind, and so I've decided not to take it that way (and if it WAS meant that way then I guess I missed it). 
In general, I usually only respond to a post if there's something in particular that a person has said that has struck some chord in me. And I have no idea what governs what strikes my chords and what doesn't...I just know how it feels when something does. But I'm sorry that my not responding specifically to you felt like a rejection. I seriously didn't mean it that way at all. I'm glad you're here.
Take care,
SG
quote:This is how I feel and it has been particularly noticeable on this thread that some members **refuse** to acknowledge anything I post while acknowledging any before and after posts If there's a reason for some to treat me as invisible I wish they would speak up and let me know why?? It's hard to feel this *seeming rejection* on such a forum
I'm pretty sure you were referring to me here and I just wanted to say that I'm really sorry I hurt your feelings.
I don't know if it helps to know this, but I wasn't "refusing" to acknowledge you, and I certainly didn't mean to treat you as invisible...I did read your post, too (the one between STRM's and Jones', which I see you've now deleted)...it's just that it seemed like you were just echoing the basic idea that STRM started. I've done something very similar on other threads...just briefly popped in and said "Hey, me too!" and had people respond to the original thread starter, but not me. So I do know how it feels, and when that's happened I've been tempted to take it personally, but then I remember that people here are very kind, and so I've decided not to take it that way (and if it WAS meant that way then I guess I missed it). In general, I usually only respond to a post if there's something in particular that a person has said that has struck some chord in me. And I have no idea what governs what strikes my chords and what doesn't...I just know how it feels when something does. But I'm sorry that my not responding specifically to you felt like a rejection. I seriously didn't mean it that way at all. I'm glad you're here. Take care,
SG
((((Morgs)))))),
I am sorry you were feeling unacknowledged. I cannot imagine that there is anyone here who isn't happy to have you here. I'm sorry if we took you for granted and failed to respond to your post. Your participation is very much appreciated!
I am sorry you were feeling unacknowledged. I cannot imagine that there is anyone here who isn't happy to have you here. I'm sorry if we took you for granted and failed to respond to your post. Your participation is very much appreciated!
Hello Kashley, Monte, STRM, Jones, SG and LadyGrey
Thank you for responding to my rant!! and thank you for your kind words Unfortunately I deleted my post so proof is gone!! Yes I am feeling sensitive but always walk away and check several times to see if my heads on backwards and am in the wrong place 
Clearly I am and also not - it's only natural that even though we all communicate via the word that natural likes and dislikes can arise - I accept that but ouch, it hurts when one is so often invisible and you haven't even made a good or bad contact with that person yet In the end I guess it really doesn't matter 
but thank you
Morgs
Thank you for responding to my rant!! and thank you for your kind words
Unfortunately I deleted my post so proof is gone!! Yes I am feeling sensitive but always walk away and check several times to see if my heads on backwards and am in the wrong place Clearly I am and also not - it's only natural that even though we all communicate via the word that natural likes and dislikes can arise - I accept that but ouch, it hurts when one is so often invisible and you haven't even made a good or bad contact with that person yet In the end I guess it really doesn't matter but thank youMorgs
okay, I guess it was me then. I am not sure what to say other than to reiterate my above post that I am sorry that you were feeling unacknowledged. I am not sure which post you are referring to, unfortunately, as it is now deleted, but I apologize for missing it the first time. I would never want anyone here to feel unacknowledged.
LadyGrey and all
PLEASE HEAR ME - don't go beating yourselves up - MY RANT IS OVER !!! I think I must be feeling too sensitive to be here and my head is definitely on backwards at the moment, so please forgive me for striking out - I DON'T EVER SET OUT TO HURT OTHERS - so please let it go!!
Morgs
PLEASE HEAR ME - don't go beating yourselves up - MY RANT IS OVER !!! I think I must be feeling too sensitive to be here and my head is definitely on backwards at the moment, so please forgive me for striking out - I DON'T EVER SET OUT TO HURT OTHERS - so please let it go!!
Morgs
Jones - dishy, that's a new one for me too! It's brilliant! 
aw, Morgs - it's ok. I can relate to what you brought up, and the responses. We all need to remember to try to not read into things that are unsaid, and say the things we need to... and I just see you doing that. It is so easy for me to say (and yet so HARD to actually do) that we all should try to not make assumptions and also keep saying if something is bothering us... And I am terrible at that. I don't think you are too sensitive or backwards at all. (and if you are, well, them I'm totally sunk.) I have all kinds of things I wonder about in regards to my posts and responses to them. I also do the same thing SG and others do in responding here and there within threads. It's never personal and it ALSO seems pretty normal and ok to rant about and let out too.
No matter what, I see your kind and compassionate heart here on the forum. Keep being you - your authentic self. As much as you can. We all need that, in so many ways.
ok, now that I've dumped my scattered brains on that (sorry if I am missing the mark), I'll honor your request and let it go too. btw, it's ok to not respond if you don't want to to this response I am writing here. It's ok. I don't mean to keep talking about something you would like to move on from.
so I have a weird question - I was reading back about how people notice different, um, body parts, of T's and I was wondering, does anyone ever notice the way a T smells? I do. My old T had a certain smell about her - some kind of perfume or something that I could smell every time I walked by. My regular T works in a dental office, and every time I walk into her building, it smells like toothpaste. Her actual office always has a slight tea smell mixed with a slight minty smell (from the dentist down the hall).
aw, Morgs - it's ok. I can relate to what you brought up, and the responses. We all need to remember to try to not read into things that are unsaid, and say the things we need to... and I just see you doing that. It is so easy for me to say (and yet so HARD to actually do) that we all should try to not make assumptions and also keep saying if something is bothering us... And I am terrible at that. I don't think you are too sensitive or backwards at all. (and if you are, well, them I'm totally sunk.) I have all kinds of things I wonder about in regards to my posts and responses to them. I also do the same thing SG and others do in responding here and there within threads. It's never personal and it ALSO seems pretty normal and ok to rant about and let out too.
No matter what, I see your kind and compassionate heart here on the forum. Keep being you - your authentic self. As much as you can. We all need that, in so many ways.
ok, now that I've dumped my scattered brains on that (sorry if I am missing the mark), I'll honor your request and let it go too. btw, it's ok to not respond if you don't want to to this response I am writing here. It's ok. I don't mean to keep talking about something you would like to move on from.
so I have a weird question - I was reading back about how people notice different, um, body parts, of T's and I was wondering, does anyone ever notice the way a T smells? I do. My old T had a certain smell about her - some kind of perfume or something that I could smell every time I walked by. My regular T works in a dental office, and every time I walk into her building, it smells like toothpaste. Her actual office always has a slight tea smell mixed with a slight minty smell (from the dentist down the hall).
Hi Morgs,
It might help to communicate by PM with the person or persons you thought were ignoring you, so that you can check out directly whether it was simply a chance thing, a miscommunication or accident, or whether there actually is a problem that could either be accepted or addressed. I know this is uncomfortable and you may just want to let it go at this point, but it strikes me as a difficult place to leave it. You seem to assume someone doesn't like you, but those you feel hurt by don't have the chance to clarify it directly, and it seems like a few people are unsure if they were the ones to hurt you. I know that creating that kind of doubt wasn't your intention.
Forum interactions are complex - more like people swarming around a fairground than traffic moving around roads. There are no rules, no lights or signs, just people doing their thing. It helps to assume the best about other people's motives, rather than the worst. I know there are a number of people on here whose posts I've been reading for a long time, whom I really enjoy and appreciate - but I rarely talk directly with them. Why? I don't know! Certainly it's no ill feeling or even lack of resonance - perhaps it's just that more often than not I don't have the right words for response to their particular experiences, so my internal response is just a quiet, friendly 'Mm.' Time is always limited on here, so I tend not to go around writing 'Mm.' on people's posts.
I would be sad to think that those people assumed I didn't like them or want to know them. But I would hope if they did feel that way, they'd get in touch so I could assure them otherwise.
J
It might help to communicate by PM with the person or persons you thought were ignoring you, so that you can check out directly whether it was simply a chance thing, a miscommunication or accident, or whether there actually is a problem that could either be accepted or addressed. I know this is uncomfortable and you may just want to let it go at this point, but it strikes me as a difficult place to leave it. You seem to assume someone doesn't like you, but those you feel hurt by don't have the chance to clarify it directly, and it seems like a few people are unsure if they were the ones to hurt you. I know that creating that kind of doubt wasn't your intention.
Forum interactions are complex - more like people swarming around a fairground than traffic moving around roads. There are no rules, no lights or signs, just people doing their thing. It helps to assume the best about other people's motives, rather than the worst. I know there are a number of people on here whose posts I've been reading for a long time, whom I really enjoy and appreciate - but I rarely talk directly with them. Why? I don't know! Certainly it's no ill feeling or even lack of resonance - perhaps it's just that more often than not I don't have the right words for response to their particular experiences, so my internal response is just a quiet, friendly 'Mm.' Time is always limited on here, so I tend not to go around writing 'Mm.' on people's posts.
I would be sad to think that those people assumed I didn't like them or want to know them. But I would hope if they did feel that way, they'd get in touch so I could assure them otherwise.
J
quote:perhaps it's just that more often than not I don't have the right words for response to their particular experiences, so my internal response is just a quiet, friendly 'Mm.' Time is always limited on here, so I tend not to go around writing 'Mm.' on people's posts
I actually almost wishing there was a "like" button on posts, or perhaps a "Mm" button on threads so I could show that I found it really interesting, or helpful, or thought provoking, or just plain liked a post, for the times when I don't have the words (and/or time) to respond, but was still really appreciated a thread I read. (But "like" buttons are kind of the easy way out and wouldn't really fit on here - it's not a suggestion or anything.)
Just wanted to add that I could relate,
~jane
quote:does anyone ever notice the way a T smells?
Ummm, yes! We've talked about it too.
Me and many of my littles will tell T that she smells good. It's hard not to notice when she is holding us or hugging us that she smells lovely. It varies what she wears and we actually wear many of the same Bath & Body Works and Victoria's Secret scents. Some I was already wearing and one that I bought because I asked her what it was and one night I (and littles) were really upset and needed something to calm us down and stop some flashbacks and we were at the mall and I bought that scent because it was very calming as it smelled like T. If I had known about it already I would have bought it on my own because it smells really nice, but it reminded me of T so all the better. The gift we made T at Christmas listed our favorite things and one of them was the way that T smells. Yep, we've talked about it. Draggers: OMG! I'm so glad you got your chocolate cake. That is too funny. Faith really cares for you and I'm glad that you two are giving it another go.
Yes!! Walking in the door to the office there is an amazing, calming scent. It almost smells like a really clean, natural soap smell- like a child's shampoo or something. I really like it and always try to smell my coat afterward, hoping it took on some of the smell.