????? LadyGrey, that is terrible with your friends!!!!! I am so sorry!! ((((LadyGrey))))

I interpret it like this: your T thinks it is unfair that life is so hard for you and she doesn't understand how you could possibly deserve such a thing.

So, nothing negative or nothing like you attract drama. My opinion.
I'm really sorry LadyGrey

LG... first my sincere condolences on the loss of your two friends. I send you safe hugs.

I think your T was saying that you have had more than your fair share of difficult circumstances and heartache and she does not understand why you should have to endure this too. Not that you attract anything bad. Just that it's unfair that someone as good as you are should suffer so much. You do not deserve to have this happen. I think she only meant it in a consoling and empathic way.

TN

LadyGrey,

Oh my, I am so sorry for the loss of both of your friends. This must be such a painful time for you.

As to what your T said, I read it as being positive as well! I would concur with Frosty's thoughts as well.

LG - I am so sorry about your friends. Really sorry.

I think your T was just being sympathetic, it is the sort of thing I would say when someone is having a really hard time, like how rough that the universe keeps throwing you a loop like this,

my t's have often said such things to me,
so I think she is being kind and supportive in saying this.

which is really nice of her.

Thank you, ladies. I think you are probably right about her intentions. There was just something strange to me about how she worded it that struck me as odd. I think I am just a little sensitive to comments like that because people often comment on how horrible my life has been. At first it felt nice to get some sympathy from people, but after 20+ years of one tragedy after another, I am honestly embarrassed of how bizarre my life is. I know I shouldn't be ashamed, but there is a certain level of embarrassment that I carry with me each time some new event occurs in my life.

anyway, i appreciate that you all took the time to read this and share your take on my T's comment. and I think you are all correct. She meant it to be empathetic.

Lady Grey,

Firstly I am so dreadfully sorry about your sad losses, both in really difficult circumstances too. How very hard for you.

I too think your T was being really empathetic with her comment -as if to say ' you have enough on your plate already, it's dreadful that you have this now' ...is how I read it. I hope that helps.

Many condolances Lady Grey,

starfish

((Lady Grey)) my sympathies on the loss of your friends in such painful circumstances I'm certain, like everyone else, that your T was feeling it's not fair that you should have more suffering and was totally empathising with you and your pain!

Such a difficult time for you - do take good care of yourself.

Morgs

LG,

I'm so sorry that I didn't see this earlier! My sincere sympathies on the loss of your friends.

I agree with others in that I think your T meant that you have had so much heartache in your life and she really hopes for a time when you can catch a break from all of it. I don't think she meant anything bad by it. I'm glad that you have been able to be in contact with her over the break.

Sending many safe hugs your way.

lg, i am with the rest. just that t was saying you have gotten alot of stuff your way, and not deserving, or that you add drama to it.

and i am so sorry for this situation with your two friends. so sad how life is sometimes. i don't understand it, and i guess i never will.

hugs, jill

LG, I am sorry that you had to lose two friends this past week. I do not think that your T meant by any means to imply that it is somehow your fault that these things happened or that you are somehow making drama for yourself. You didn't cause the deaths of your friends, and it is only totally understandable that you would turn to your T at this time. I think that your T meant to be supportive and to suggest that it is hard to comprehend how such difficult things could happen to just one person in such a short time. This is NOT to say that she thinks that it is somehow your fault. I hope that you don't believe that, but I also hope that you will voice such a belief if you do--so that you can have a chance to really talk it through with someone (even us!). Please take care of yourself the best you can, and please know that it's okay to turn to others--especially your T!--at a time like this.

Thinking of you,
Firefly

LG, I'm so sorry about your friends. Take it easy on yourself.

Welcome, Firefly.

J