xoxo,
I read the link. I thought it was interesting how changing the tone or projection made such a difference.

I can't relate on the mother part but just to say that my mom was in my feeling passive...my brother has told her that. Unfortunately, I was too passive also as I was informed this afternoon by my daughter but not for the reasons she thinks...something I have to live with but as of now she is not holding it against me.

I know this sounds weird but I would be so scared when my dad would get into one of those things in his impatience and he would pull out the belt I would wet my pants just in fear that he was going to get me...maybe I do have more memories than I thought. Unfortunately, that kind of impatience almost made me do that "on the job" once but I realized and caught myself. I describe my dad as very impatient...that is my word for him.