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Hi Cat,
Just because they might be amazing doesn't take away from your "amazingness". It's not like there is a finite amount of awesomeness in the world and, if other people have it, it takes away from yours. You can be (and are) amazing as well!
But, yes, I get inimidated too!
Just because they might be amazing doesn't take away from your "amazingness". It's not like there is a finite amount of awesomeness in the world and, if other people have it, it takes away from yours. You can be (and are) amazing as well!
But, yes, I get inimidated too!
((((Cat))))
I can understand the feelings you have right now because i go through the same thing.
But then again the person who thinks others are above them, already are unique by that thought.
And it's good that you have you T and that you are trying so hard.
I hope you get through this soon
I can understand the feelings you have right now because i go through the same thing.
But then again the person who thinks others are above them, already are unique by that thought.
And it's good that you have you T and that you are trying so hard.
I hope you get through this soon
(((CAT))))
Loved the thinking out loud. Your thoughts were really helpful to me:
It seems like such a simple concept but it's so hard to define ourselves without them in the picture, isn't it? Our minds seem to need some structure of a sort in order to function, even if that structure comes from an incredibly dysfunctional family.
But, CAT, it all sounds like cool stuff. You're doing really cool work.
I totally get how if other people are amazing, it can feel like it takes away from us, our uniqueness. That's what happens because of our society's focus on winners. If there really is only a 1st, 2nd and 3rd place, then the awesomeness spots are finite. This issue has really been highlighted for me because of raising my girls.
I grew up outside of a major metropolitan area where there are a lot of bright people. In my high school, for instance, let's just say that the top 100 (out of 300) kids had I.Q.'s of 120 or above. I suppose numbers 11 to 100 might not feel that special or capable when nothing could be further from the truth. It's kind of crazy when you think about it.
Alright I'll get off my soapbox now.
Loved the thinking out loud. Your thoughts were really helpful to me:
quote:it's like if I'm not defined by them then I have to define myself.
It seems like such a simple concept but it's so hard to define ourselves without them in the picture, isn't it? Our minds seem to need some structure of a sort in order to function, even if that structure comes from an incredibly dysfunctional family.
But, CAT, it all sounds like cool stuff. You're doing really cool work.
I totally get how if other people are amazing, it can feel like it takes away from us, our uniqueness. That's what happens because of our society's focus on winners. If there really is only a 1st, 2nd and 3rd place, then the awesomeness spots are finite. This issue has really been highlighted for me because of raising my girls.
I grew up outside of a major metropolitan area where there are a lot of bright people. In my high school, for instance, let's just say that the top 100 (out of 300) kids had I.Q.'s of 120 or above. I suppose numbers 11 to 100 might not feel that special or capable when nothing could be further from the truth. It's kind of crazy when you think about it.
Alright I'll get off my soapbox now.
I can relate. My T has a perfect body. I mean she is in perfect physical shape and has a great figure. Well, I gave my car up and bike everywhere yet I still have a lot of weight to lose. She always says things like "I am so impressed by how much you bike" or "You are quite the biker" etc. I feel so dumb when she says this because compared to her I need to join every gym in town and work out 24/7.
(((CAT)))
I was too busy this afternoon to reply but wanted to reply to something very specific this evening when I had more time. I see it's gone and I can't recall off the top of my head what it was exactly. It was something really relevant. I'm sorry you felt like you had to edit.
I was too busy this afternoon to reply but wanted to reply to something very specific this evening when I had more time. I see it's gone and I can't recall off the top of my head what it was exactly. It was something really relevant. I'm sorry you felt like you had to edit.
Hey you,
Yes, it was along those lines, I think. I'm kind of foggy right now. Did T2 tell you if it's good thing or a bad thing that you're going through developmental trauma right now? It sounds like a bad thing but it sounds like it could also be a good thing. Not sure.
The fluidity concept sounds interesting, almost like you are sitting back and watching a little more, watching things flow in and flow out?
I can't remember exactly what it is I was going to say but I do relate to trying to own my life. I've spent so much time trying to get into other's people's heads. Just being in my own head without worrying about what's in other people's heads is very scary for me. Freeing too but scary.
xxxx
Yes, it was along those lines, I think. I'm kind of foggy right now. Did T2 tell you if it's good thing or a bad thing that you're going through developmental trauma right now? It sounds like a bad thing but it sounds like it could also be a good thing. Not sure.
The fluidity concept sounds interesting, almost like you are sitting back and watching a little more, watching things flow in and flow out?
I can't remember exactly what it is I was going to say but I do relate to trying to own my life. I've spent so much time trying to get into other's people's heads. Just being in my own head without worrying about what's in other people's heads is very scary for me. Freeing too but scary.
xxxx