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Hisea of tears. I am on my cell phone so its hard to write. I just wanted to let you know I read what you wrote and I'm so sorry for what you had to go through as a child. I wanted you to know that someone was reading and listening. I will write more when I am back to my computer. Unfortunately it is slow around here on weekends which is why you dont see more responses. Please take care welcome to the board and I hope you keep posting.
TN
TN
Sea of Tears
How very sorry I am for the things you endured that no child should have to. Your post had so many triggers for me of things I could relate to that are buried deep in a hole in a far away land. YOU are not alone! You can talk here & be safe. You can post as little or as much as you feel comfortable w/. There is no judgement here even though you feel it as you type. We are all survivors in one way or another. You are a survivor!
How ironic you post on Father's Day which has such a great message behind it for those dads that made a difference. How sad of a day it is for those of us who have to call or speak to our dads who's hand delivered so much pain in our lives @ least mine! And I'm supposed to thank him? I'd rather make the call then suffer the consequences. Knowing at my next visit my dad can still grab my hair, sweep my feet & bring me to my knees in one moment & laugh about it the next. Last time my then 4 yo DD saw it. Then the lies start by telling her it was all in fun & I was t really crying. I'm sure she'll remember it. My father is in his 70's & I'm in my 40's & he STILL has that power!
We are all here for you if you'd like to share or need a boost out of a slump. Sometimes giving your feelings a voice can reduce its stature.
Peace,
Mudd
How very sorry I am for the things you endured that no child should have to. Your post had so many triggers for me of things I could relate to that are buried deep in a hole in a far away land. YOU are not alone! You can talk here & be safe. You can post as little or as much as you feel comfortable w/. There is no judgement here even though you feel it as you type. We are all survivors in one way or another. You are a survivor!
How ironic you post on Father's Day which has such a great message behind it for those dads that made a difference. How sad of a day it is for those of us who have to call or speak to our dads who's hand delivered so much pain in our lives @ least mine! And I'm supposed to thank him? I'd rather make the call then suffer the consequences. Knowing at my next visit my dad can still grab my hair, sweep my feet & bring me to my knees in one moment & laugh about it the next. Last time my then 4 yo DD saw it. Then the lies start by telling her it was all in fun & I was t really crying. I'm sure she'll remember it. My father is in his 70's & I'm in my 40's & he STILL has that power!
We are all here for you if you'd like to share or need a boost out of a slump. Sometimes giving your feelings a voice can reduce its stature.
Peace,
Mudd
((((SoT))))
I think you gave voice to your story very well. I am so sorry. I know this story, for much of it runs parallel to mine. But I haven't yet found the words. Thank you for being so courageous.
I think you gave voice to your story very well. I am so sorry. I know this story, for much of it runs parallel to mine. But I haven't yet found the words. Thank you for being so courageous.
((((seaoftears))))
Your story is a painful one, and I am so sorry for what you have experienced in your life.
Shame is so very difficult, and all too familiar for those of us who have been hurt at the hands of another.
I hope you will find some support and hope from the kind people here.
blu
Your story is a painful one, and I am so sorry for what you have experienced in your life.
Shame is so very difficult, and all too familiar for those of us who have been hurt at the hands of another.
I hope you will find some support and hope from the kind people here.
blu
Dear SOT
Welcome to the community
I feel so deeply for the neglected and terribly abused little girl inside you. Who is full of self-loathing, who sees herself as repulsive, worthless and shameful. But she is just a little girl. There is nothing she could have said, done or felt that would have warranted such horrific treatment at the hands of those who were supposed to love her. It was never her fault.
I can resonate with the longing for someone to see what was going on and to be important enough to them that they would help and put an end to it. that because that didn't happen, it means you're worthless and undeserving. but it doesn't mean that. it means you existed in a cruel and dysfunctional family system.
YOu are good, you have immense value just as you are and you deserve the good things in life, you deserve to heal and find real happiness. I never thought this was possible until the end of last year.
Again welcome to the community
Hugs xx
Welcome to the community
I feel so deeply for the neglected and terribly abused little girl inside you. Who is full of self-loathing, who sees herself as repulsive, worthless and shameful. But she is just a little girl. There is nothing she could have said, done or felt that would have warranted such horrific treatment at the hands of those who were supposed to love her. It was never her fault.
I can resonate with the longing for someone to see what was going on and to be important enough to them that they would help and put an end to it. that because that didn't happen, it means you're worthless and undeserving. but it doesn't mean that. it means you existed in a cruel and dysfunctional family system.
YOu are good, you have immense value just as you are and you deserve the good things in life, you deserve to heal and find real happiness. I never thought this was possible until the end of last year.
Again welcome to the community
Hugs xx