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Monte
I am sorry that I don't know you well, so I hope that you do not mind me responding. Thank you for sharing and posting this. It does indeed give me hope as I am still struggling with separations from T (although working on it). I am kind of attached to my T (again a work in progress, we have DID, so some parts are attached whilst others don't want or deny the attachment to T) so it provides hope and inspiration to read this that someday I will be there (all of me/us) and able to write something equally inspiring and hopeful.
Thank you again for such a wonderful post
Pingles
I am sorry that I don't know you well, so I hope that you do not mind me responding. Thank you for sharing and posting this. It does indeed give me hope as I am still struggling with separations from T (although working on it). I am kind of attached to my T (again a work in progress, we have DID, so some parts are attached whilst others don't want or deny the attachment to T) so it provides hope and inspiration to read this that someday I will be there (all of me/us) and able to write something equally inspiring and hopeful.
Thank you again for such a wonderful post
Pingles
(((((MONTE))))))
I am so happy for you. I love what your T wrote about your adult self making other plans. LOL! I'm not so sure it's an adult self but definitely a protective part. He definitely gets the parts stuff though.
I'm so glad you can feel the connection and his caring despite the break. That's monumental.
I am so happy for you. I love what your T wrote about your adult self making other plans. LOL! I'm not so sure it's an adult self but definitely a protective part. He definitely gets the parts stuff though.
I'm so glad you can feel the connection and his caring despite the break. That's monumental.
(((Monte))) So happy to hear that you have found you're way to that secure place, heaven knows, you have invested sweat, blood and tears to get there. I am so glad that you were courageous enough and your T was steady enough for you to reach the further shore. I know it doesn't eliminate all of the pain and struggle but that place of security gives you a place to rest while you continue on your healing journey. It helps so much. Thank you for sharing this, it very much lifted my heart.
AG
AG
I'm feeling the need for a group hug. Look how far we have come together.
(((Monte))) So happy for you. You've worked hard to get through so much pain and fear and into this experience. It really warmed my heart to read about.
And those of us who tend to lurk more than engage have learned so much from you. I'm happy for you and encouraged to keep paddling myself. Thank you.
Hi Monte,
Thank you for sharing such a beautiful and uplifting experience. It gives me hope that my relationship with my P is headed in the right direction.
As the attachment becomes secure, maybe we learn to accept and adjust to their boundaries, because of all they are offering us within the relationship. My P allows contact between sessions, but there's no touch at all, not even a handshake. It's not something I really dwell on unless we have a conflict, and then I imagine a hug will resolve everything, but realistically I know it's not true.
I agree with AG, your post uplifted my heart
Summer
Thank you for sharing such a beautiful and uplifting experience. It gives me hope that my relationship with my P is headed in the right direction.
As the attachment becomes secure, maybe we learn to accept and adjust to their boundaries, because of all they are offering us within the relationship. My P allows contact between sessions, but there's no touch at all, not even a handshake. It's not something I really dwell on unless we have a conflict, and then I imagine a hug will resolve everything, but realistically I know it's not true.
I agree with AG, your post uplifted my heart
Summer
That was really lovely to read
Beautiful - go Monte!!
Hi Monte,
so good to read your update and to know you are 'safe on hold'; I think that is a true sign that all is well and you are indeed making enormous strides. I am so happy for you, it really cheered me to read what you wrote.
fishy
so good to read your update and to know you are 'safe on hold'; I think that is a true sign that all is well and you are indeed making enormous strides. I am so happy for you, it really cheered me to read what you wrote.
fishy
(((MONTE))) I am so happy for you. Feeling internally safe and securely attached is what I pray for and strive for. Knowing that you have accomplished this, really gives me so much hope and realization that it can happen. Thank you for sharing this.
Monte. Wow. It's an amazing journey, isn't it? I think for those of us with attachment injuries, the inner child work is crucial. It's the way we really heal ourselves. It's hard to let go of wanting T to rescue our little one. She yearns for it so. But T can be only a guide, an imperfect one at that, and the hard work is ours to learn self-nurturing, self-soothing, self-regulating - accomplishments, all. I am grateful you shared this.
-RT
-RT
Monte, Boy, did I need to read your last post...Gives me hope. I am having a ten-day break and silently flipping out. I cannot wait when the times comes where I can be really "okay" with separations; they do a number on me and it is horrible. What a feeling that must be to be "okay", really feel it inside. Good for you!
Hi Monte 
I'm sorry I'm late to this thread. I think it's awesome that you are feeling the security of the attachment. You have always inspired me and I'm thrilled that all your hard work is paying off for you. That fact that you have battled through so much pain to find deep peace gives hope to me. How brilliant to leave your childhood toy in T's office. That is so perfect. I would say that your inner child is in a very safe place and that is part of the comfort and connection and warmth you are enjoying now.
You have always been generous in sharing your insight and therapy experiences with me and they have always helped me. I thank you for sharing this beautiful example of what happens in therapy when you approach it with courage and determination and have a T who really gets it. It shows us what is truly possible.
Hugs
TN
I'm sorry I'm late to this thread. I think it's awesome that you are feeling the security of the attachment. You have always inspired me and I'm thrilled that all your hard work is paying off for you. That fact that you have battled through so much pain to find deep peace gives hope to me. How brilliant to leave your childhood toy in T's office. That is so perfect. I would say that your inner child is in a very safe place and that is part of the comfort and connection and warmth you are enjoying now.
You have always been generous in sharing your insight and therapy experiences with me and they have always helped me. I thank you for sharing this beautiful example of what happens in therapy when you approach it with courage and determination and have a T who really gets it. It shows us what is truly possible.
Hugs
TN