I did want to check in thought, because some STRANGE things have been happening for me as of late, and I'm not so sure what I think about them yet!
My entire life, my self-regulation skills have been pretty poor-- about this time last year, i wrote about it in my "Self-Regulation (or lack there of)..." thread. Lately though, things have kind of kicked in. I'm going to bed at a consistent time, I'm waking up at a consistent time, I'm remembering to do chores, I'm completing my work AHEAD of schedule (sometimes), I'm getting into... a ROUTINE!?!?! I've never purposefully been on a routine before!! I'm even making my lunches and preparing them ahead of time! I was reluctant to tell my therapist all this stuff because I don't want her to think I'm getting better and kick me out (), but I wrote it all out for her and told her everything... I even told her that I kinda ENJOY being on a routine because I know what to expect! It's all soooooo strange for me though.
The inner-child-me has really had a hard time with the whole "bedtime" concept. Ever since I can remember, i've just stayed up until I was so exhausted I HAD to go to sleep (1, 2, 3, 4 am!!!). In fact, when my t started talking about "bedtime," my knee-jerk response was "I don't want a bedtime! i didn't even have a bedtime when I was a kid!!!" She just looked at me with this quizical 'like-your-childhood-is-a-good-example' look and goes "EXACTLY. Now what's your point?!" LLLOOOLLL!!! She said when her daughter was about 2, she wanted to fall asleep in front of the tv every night, but my t disappointed her in the short term to benefit her in the long-term, and she suggested I try that with myself. So I've had these internal dialogues with myself-- the younger me who thinks she knows EVERYTHING (because she knew more than the adults did back in the day). I tell myself that I'm allowed to be angry and not want to go to bed but that doesn't mean I'm going to get to stay up... just like I would with an actual child. Well, it's really making a difference, and the little, inner me really likes not having to be in charge, even though it's difficult to get used to. I have these inner power struggles though... like "I don't wanna go to school" and "do I have to get up?!?!" It's so hard being parent and child, but it's SO necessary! And it's so helpful now that I've come to a place where I can do it!!!
Never in my adult life have I CHOSEN to be this organized and 'on the ball'. I mean, let me give you examples of how things have changed: 1) I'm dreaming on almost a nightly basis because I'm getting enough sleep! It's a little disturbing really because I'm having and remembering so many dreams! I thought something was wrong with me, but my t said it's supposed to be that way! 2) I looked at my alarm clock the other day when I was going to bed, and I was like "what's that little light on there for??" It was the light for "PM" people, I just haven't ever seen it because I am so used to going to bed and waking up in the AM hours!!!!! 3) I'm taking care of myself in a new way... it sound simple but I'm dressing for the weather! All of my life, I've just walked out of the house not knowing and/or not caring what I was walking into (I live in Texas, the weather changes by the minute here). If it rained, I got wet, if it was cold, i was cold, if it was hot, I was hot. I've always just "dealt with it" and "taken it as it came". But I've been dressing appropriately... even wearing a freaking scarf!!! 4) I'm getting tired at the same time everynight!!! And hungry at the same times!!! I've never had a working "body clock" before... this shit is CRAZY!!!
Well, speaking of crazy, i guess that brings me to another point... I'm really hovering in a new area... I'm getting dangerously close to... NORMAL (my t calls it the "n" word, LOL)! I don't mean normal in the sense of "mainstream" or "like other people"... I just mean that I'm not operating from a pathological state of either extreme (doing EVERYTHING no matter what or having to force myself to do ANYTHING at all). But my t will say something I'm doing sounds "normal" and my immediate reaction is "shhhh don't say that word!!!!" All the previous "normals" I've experienced were just calms before giant storms... but what she pointed out was that those were all on somebody else's terms. Theoretically, I should be able to acknowledge my "normalcy" now without fearing that mere acknowledgement will make it vanish, but it's scary. I mean, normal has NOT been my normal, if you know what I mean. I'm so unsure and hesistant to trust this unassuming GIANT called normal. It's just strange, which my t said was probably a good sign that things are changing... idk. It's almost like I don't know what to do with myself being all productive and adult!!
Well, I guess that's it. Thanks for reading if you made it this far. I just wanted to write all that out and organize my thoughts a bit. I guess I just keep putting one foot in front of the other from here, and see where this takes me! We'll see!
-CT