, plus I love the fact that the "culture" of this board is so sensitive to issues of attachment and attunement broadly speaking. Therefore I am posting this here even if it's a little off topic. (But hey, this is coffee talk, why am I worried about that? Never mind, I will let this paragraph stand since I went to the trouble of typing it. 
)One of my friends on facebook is a first time mom. She posted a little story today about how her kid was in her highchair on a stool (it was the kind of chair that straps onto things, not a free standing one obviously) and somehow she tipped over and crashed to the floor, but it was okay because she just hit her head on the back of the highchair seat, but she cried awhile and etc. etc.
Anyway, my friend seemed soooo upset. She said she just held her daughter for a long time and cried and cried, thinking about how bad it could have been.
I am not convinced it could have been all that bad, but I digress. This reminded me of a story T told me about her nine month old rolling off the bed one time, and how she felt guilty and terrified for the longest.
I have three kids, but I've never been like that with any of them, not even the first. They've had their fair share of falls and rolls and tumbles, but normally I just blink, scoop them up, dust them off, kiss their owies, and send them on their merry way after comforting them or applying an ice pack as need be.
I suppose as far as the kids go, that's all they need and maybe a more dramatic reaction would freak them out, but. . . I just don't *feel* those things that other people talk about. I don't get overwhelmed with terror, or guilt, or relief, or whatever. Mildly concerned, mildly relieved, sometimes a little freaked out for awhile, but that's it.
I think I care about my children and I'm a decently good parent, but I have never once cried when they've fallen or even come close.
I don't know. Could this be some manifestation of emotional dissociation and repression? Or is it a personality thing? Or am I a monster?
I'm not writing this so people can make me feel better about myself per se, but more trying to gauge a "normal", figure out if this it a trauma related blocking of feeling or not, and if it's something I ought to be working on.
HIC
(who can be an insecure parent for all her nonchalance)
I think you're right about them needing a calm reaction. I remember when I had a head injury when I was little - my Mom got hysterical because she hates blood... I was four or so... and left with all these big dr people all alone because everyone else was attending to my Mom. That's extreme but I remember telling my T that.. when you're a kid and your Mom is freaked out... YOU'RE freaked out. 
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