I have a basic understanding of how we develop our sense of self and our importance within the world. I also "know" theoretically that I am as entitled as the next person to live a full and happy life.
However, I internalised from an early age that my mother believed I ruined her life and I can't shake the feeling that I stole her life from her. There is no way to change this as my mother died many years ago and I have no memory of her ever being pleased I was around.
So I'm wondering, is it a question of simply deciding that I am entitled to my life? That I am worthy of love? Because I've been pretending that I think that but it doesn't take much for that to all fall about my ears.
Is it possible through working with my T, who I do fleetingly feel connected to, that I'll learn I am worth having a relationship with? Or do I have to find that within me? I don't know if I can. Surely I would have managed it already on my own if it were possible?
I probably sound quite naive - I really feel that I just don't get relationships, how people can be so important to eachother. The first time I've attached to anyone has been to this T, and I give myself quite a hard time about that...
Any insight on developing sense of self worth much appreciated.
Iris