Jones, Sadly, Draggers - Thanks for all your input.
Jones - My hope was just that others have experienced similar things, which although doesn't tell me the how/why of any of it, would make me feel, "It will be OK, it can be managed."
I don't know about how long it has been since I have gotten a good night's sleep, because even without my H's condition, I tend to wake up with nightmares, because of Boo talking or fussing in her sleep, etc. Since I moved to the floor, I no longer have insomnia...which actually sucks, because I keep falling asleep in bed while snuggling, when I do not mean to. Before, I would lay up for 45 minutes or more trying to sleep and now I fall asleep within 15 minutes and wake up realizing I need to move to the floor before something happens. I have been eating better than I was, but still just two meals a day, and occasionally a dessert too.
I have a real struggle with either eating way too little or way too much, but I'm closer to the too much side right now, probably because I had to take provera to get my cycle.
Yeah, my biggest worries are driving and Boo. I had a car accident with our storage locker in our condo's garage in October, because I blanked out due to stressful thoughts/emotions about the holidays. H was on his France trip at that time and has a UK trip in a couple of weeks, so I am scared. I am MOST worried about Boo, but so far, something seems to keep me present when she is around/awake. I will sometimes get very sleepy, or bad thoughts, or "chatter," but as far as I can tell, no full blank outs when I'm taking care of her. But, since things are getting worse, I do worry.
I wanted to talk to T about this stuff last night, but it was last on my list that I had texted him and we didn't get to it.
I have been texting him since last night, mostly because I am pretty freaked out. I'm waiting to hear back what he says. I keep getting really scared he is going to send me away to someone else. He'll think I'm lying or way too much for him to deal with and make me go.
There is a clinical psychologist in his practice, but he costs about twice what T does, so there is no way I can afford that. Same thing with a psychiatrist. We have no mental health coverage at all...
I feel like I'm the one making things worse. I can't seem to keep moving too fast, no matter what I do. T has tried to slow me down, but my brain keeps churning, and now he's just trying to get me to a place where I feel completely safe letting my needs and thoughts surface at the speed they naturally do without having self-destructive internal responses.
I'm not sure if T knows what's going on or not. He had me pegged as highly dissociative a few sessions into our relationship, before I knowingly blanked out on him even once. He has asked me twice now, when I bring up "parts" or "states" if I can give them names, but I don't know if he means literally names or identify functionally what they're like.
Sadly - In this case, I do go back and forth. Maybe it was just a very strange glitch that deleted just this stuff I wrote and no other stuff, and preserved some other changes? Maybe I saved after changing some stuff and not after the other stuff or I just am not remembering correctly when I clearly recall saving and shutting it down that night. I am pretty sure that it's not a glitch, but then I get this internal argument that I am making stuff up, overreacting, etc. Since last night, a lot of back and forth with being freaked out and another part berating and accusing and trying to convince me not to tell T, because he won't understand or will think I'm lying/manipulating or will think I'm too much work and leave me.
I have told him via text, which made for a very long text. Then, told him about my internal reaction to having shared that information. Will be really freaked until I hear back.
Draggers - Yeah, have officially told T (via text, so I can't change my mind). All the voices are internal. They are me, but not-me. What I mean by that is whatever thoughts/feelings/words/urges these parts have, I experience them as "me" or at least a part of me in the moment, but then once I switch to another mode of thinking/feeling, they don't feel relatable anymore, like "How could I be believe that about my T?" or "How could I be contemplating doing THAT?" They become not-me and don't make sense as an internal experience. I have described it like waking up from a dream where you were someone else who did stuff that you would never do. You get that the experience was internal, but you don't understand where it came from. It becomes something I can objectively analyze and kind of understand, but not feel very connected to, especially the very destructive inclinations and the intense feelings regarding T (either very needy or really paranoid).
I don't know if I'm making sense. I'm having a fuzzy head morning, because trying to "talk" about this stuff always makes me really sleepy. Worst part is that my H is in training this week, just down the street, but will be gone at least 12 hours everyday, so I will be all on my own with Boo all day long. Thinking of going to talk to my pastor about this stuff today, but scared I will freak him out.