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blackbirdblackbirdMember
So...a friend sent me an invitation to LinkedIn. So I said to myself, yes, I can certainly utilize the services of another useless internet connection network that I will never use, and of course, I accepted, delighted with the idea that somebody would "want me."

It immediately downloaded all my contacts. I "skipped" the step where you invite people and just, ok, monkeyed around with the "profile" for a bit and then said **** this and let it go. Now, a friend from my contact list has contacted me and told me that she was invited *by me* to join this network. (!!!) I never did that!
It makes sense, they must sneakily do it automatically- since the person who invited me I am not even in contact with and barely know anymore, but I would still be on their inbox list...that it automatically mines your inbox and sends out an invitation to everyone on it, whether you ask it to, or not.

Can you see where I am going with this? It means that my recently broken-from T Frowner has probably received an invitation from me to connect on this particular facebook-type network. Which I never would have done- but which I, of course, would absolutely *love* to do- and don't think he isn't well aware of that in his T-like mind. Frowner yarg. Even when I can't be touched by him anymore, I accidentally make myself so freaking vulnerable without even meaning to! ack. The invitation is like:

"Hi, I would like to connect with you on Linked in...will you please accept me as a friend and the love of your life whom you will never-ever reject? **eyelash flutter** "
(ok, I made that last part up, but that is what it seems like.)

AGGGGGGG! (the universe is against me!!)

So now I am wondering...should I do damage control, not just for my T but ok, primarily because of him? Should I send a mass email to everyone on my contact list, saying that it was a mistake and to please ignore the invitation? Because I *know* if one got to my T, he will think... arg, that I am stalking him, now that I've quit my therapy. Or worse, what if he thinks that I quit my therapy just so that I could connect with him on some stupid network. (I know he is a member of that network, because when I was signing up, it showed his name on there, from my email contact list as a member, which I plugged my ears to and ignored)

So, if I email like, 250 random contacts, I would say:

"A friend has notified me that she got an invitation from me to join this network.. No such invitation was sent by me, so if you have received one, please feel free to disregard it...


Or should I just say screw it and just let it go? Or should I word it differently?
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J janedoeMember
(((bb))) oh what timing life has sometimes. I'm so sorry - that is frustrating! I have received a handful of emails saying the kind of thing you are working on emailing out. It's nbd to me to get an email like that. I really hope it helps you put your mind at ease w/ your T a bit. And I hope the darn technology starts working! argh.
ButterflyButterflyMember
BB, I did exactly the same thing not too long ago. I was just messing about with a profile as somebody had suggested I might like it. I also skipped the step to invite friends as I do on anything of a similar nature as I don't speak to half the people in my contact list. A few days later one of my friends told me that they had added me as a result of receiving a friendship request from me. I was gobsmacked BB, and like you my thoughts went to whether my old T had also received one which I now know she most likely did along with others who I would never contact in a million years. I don't think I even put my main email address in, yet I must have for it to have picked up on my friends. After my initial panic I put this to the back of my head and pretended it never happened! I haven't been on it since...not that I would remember my login details anyway.

The email you have written sounds great and maybe you can have a happy ending like the person in the account that Jones posted...at least I hope you can.

Butterfly
blackbirdblackbirdMember
yarg...thanks for the article Jones. And thanks for the support everybody. Yes BG, tehy really are the devil.
I feel slightly better after reading that article.. But gosh, there are *so* many people on that list that I *never* would have sent this stupid invitation to! Like...eep embarrassing people. And, to top it off, my email will not allow me to send "the great apology email" since it now thinks I am a spammer. sheesh.
blackbirdblackbirdMember
arg...I cannot send my little apology. my email will *not* let me. it keeps giving me error codes and weird little spammer thingys, and arg. I am now friends on LinkedIn with some organization that I sent a letter to about 6 years ago, and have no more contact or interest in. sheesh. yarg. sorry for the grumble, vent.
yakusokuyakusokuMember
Could you just choose 10 people to send it to and include T in there and he wouldn't know that it went out to a ton more people accidentally? Alternatively, can you just send it to the people you actually DON'T want to link with and just BCC them all, so they can't see each others' addresses (probably a good idea anyway) and they won't know how many other people are in the BCC field, so they can only assume it is a mass email from the way it is written. At least that will solve the issue with T, if not everyone else. How is he to know that there are only five or ten people on your apology?

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