Babies and toddlers crying can be sadness, fear, rage/anger and frustration.
But if we comfort and accept their feelings, they soon melt into our arms and relax.

I'm angry because therapy is ruling my life and has been for 4 years. I don't remember life before my T. What did I used to do with myself? I'm so disillusioned because life is SO HARD at the moment but it ALWAYS has been for the little one inside. She's still as miserable and scared as she was 4 years ago.

Can you relax with your T and have feelings of anger/rage/sadness/despair/frustration/fear/pain, and feel comforted yet?

yes I can. And its the best feeling yet it brings on more grief because I've missed out on that for the first 30 years of my life. The best thing is that as I'm starting to be able to do that for myself, I can imagine, T, me and some dear friends comforting me in those distressed states.

Keep it flowing GE.

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Originally posted by muff:
Can you relax with your T and have feelings of anger/rage/sadness/despair/frustration/fear/pain, and feel comforted yet?

I am still failing at this part, although I did get very angry at T, right there, in the moment, in her office. Unfortunately, she got angry right back at me. What am I doing wrong?

Nothing!

when does the comfort kick in then?

I am sure your T will be more than willing to answer that question for you RE.

RE, i think it's kind of an insidious thing, not something that happens over night. you might like something is startingn to feel "good" and over time you may realize that's what the feeling is, is comfort. i'm working on it, albeit slowly. i hope you can get there, too.