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anger and trauma and CBT therapy?

D danceranddogMember
Hi,

I saw a T today, and I am feeling rather stuck. I am working on anger, and it seems to be deeply linked to trauma. The T says I'm pushing everyone away. People scare me! How am I supposed to stop? I tried to fill out some CBT forms, but I got stuck trying to write the "rational" thought to counter balance my fear and anger based thinking. My T says I need to integrate trauma more, but I spent years in psychodynamic therapy talking about the trauma. All that talking about how I got hurt just left me more scared than ever. I can say and spell out all the trauma, disect my fears endlessly and find the links to trauma, but I still can't handle people. I do push them away. Sometimes I do it right away, sometimes I do it after a little while. I keep pushing the T away, and I'm very stuck.

Has anyone else used CBT or anything else that helped with anything like this? Any suggestions?

dancer
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greeneyesgreeneyesMember
Hi dancer

As a trauma survivor I've found intense psychoanalytic therapy the most helpful intervention by far.

There is often a strong emphasis on insight and interpretation.
However one of the major avenues of healing is mourning and grieving, reliving the emotional pain that would have destroyed us in childhood had we faced it then.

I don't know your history but maybe your caregivers didn't handle interpersonal closeness or vulnerable feelings very well which led you to feel ashamed and scared of getting hurt whenever someone tries to get close. Yet on another level there may be a part of you that longs for that closeness but in a safe and caring way you never had.

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