My one-year anniversary with my T is coming up on May 4. I read some neat ideas on here, and was thinking of what I could do to make the occasion special. Then, at my last appointment with T, I mentioned that our 1-yr ann. was coming up, and he had no idea what I was talking about at first. He seemed very nonchalant about it, like "huh."

Then I mentioned to a friend (who also sees him) that I was wondering about maybe sending a card or something, and she thought it was the most ridiculous thing she'd ever heard of. She actually laughed at the idea. I think her exact words were,(sounding incredulous) "You aren't seriously thinking of "celebrating" going to a therapist for a year, are you?!?"

Uhhhh.... no..... ?
I admit, I lied. Dang it, I've worked so hard to not lie anymore, but I knew she was mocking the very idea!

Regardless, I am doing something though, but her reaction made me realize that we're on two playing fields. Even though we go to the same T, we don't talk about him or therapy much. This is part of why: it's sacred to me, as in personal and "My Experience," and I don't feel comfortable sharing that with anyone who is going to mock it. I have said here before that I have NO support outside of you all, because even H, who is supportive of my GOING, doesn't understand why nor does he know all of what we discuss. SO... can I turn to you all again for some advice? I really would like to let my T know how much he means to me without making him think that I've relapsed into obsessive mode (again), but I realize that the occasion means nothing to him, so anything I do may seem over the top to him, like my friend obviously would if it were her. What if he feels like she does, that it's "ridiculous" to even acknowledge such an anniversary?? I really don't want to alienate him, nor make him think I'm carrying things too far.


Hugs to you all,
Starry