So it seems like a lot of people like to discuss the physical boundaries between them and their T. For me this is somewhat of a new concept. With my 3rd T and current T, physical touch boundaries weren't and aren't really a big deal. Then again, I'm someone who loves and kind of needs a lot of hugs and comfort. My T's were always the first ones to initiate the hugs though. Here's an example to paint a better picture:

In November a really bad bus accident occurred involving some students from the agricultural department from my university. One girl (who happened to live in my hall) passed away and many others were seriously hurt including one of my closest friends. Of course I was in complete and total shock of the news, as well as pretty much the entire school. That same night that the accident happened, we held a candlelight vigil for those involved in the accident and all the counselors from the counseling center were there. I was a complete wreck and immediately ran to my T when I saw her in the crowd after the vigil was over. She held me and hugged me and let me cry on her for about 10 minutes. Another time, I had had a mini breakdown and kpsort of demanded to the people on the front office of the counseling center that I see my T immediately even though I didn't have an appt lol. Since it wasnt a "regular" session and she just needed to calm me down and talk with me for a few minutes, she sat down right next to me on her couch in her office as opposed to the regular me sitting on the couch and her sitting in the chair, and she hugged me while I cried, and even patted my leg which just made me feel so safe and secure.

Overall, I guess everyone is different. It just makes me feel like my T is not being professional as far as the physical boundaries only cos I never thought about that sort of thing before. But if it's right for us and its only helping the therapeutic relationship, I guess we can keep the hugs comin!