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It's on my Facebook, mostly from a few people...but as a part of it, women are sharing their experiences of harassment and abuse...which is important, but I'm finding myself massively triggered, like all sorts of memories coming up, and I would never publicly share them anywhere except anonymously, because of course I'm terrified anyone who knows me (especially family, who I never even told about the incidents in my preteens and teens thst I am 100% sure about) would deny it, never believe. And also, obviously, some of my stuff is way too intense to be even shared outside of T and my H, period.

I don't want to avoid my Facebook because a few (mostly one) are posting triggering, but important things. I don't want to block said person with no explanation, because they are otherwise a very lovely person (high school acquaintance), who although I don't have too much in common with, I do respect. I'm scared to message them, because even though we've known each other a long time, we're not what you would call close, and it's kind of like BTW TMI but I'm triggered by your posts, because I've experienced SA from at least four people in my life and probably more than half of my experiences have been nonconsensual in a way due to my dissociation and freezing up, outside of harassment and other stuff.

Do I just need to block them temporarily to avoid being triggered? Do I need to face it by sharing vaguely and privately that I'm being massively triggered? I don't know what to do. :'(
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Hi Yaku,

I haven't really seen much of #yesallwomen, but could certainly understand how it could be triggering. This is more practical advice than emotional support, but on Facebook, you can hide a user from your newsfeed without blocking or defriending them. They would never know you had done that. So, if it were me, I would probably hide anyone posting triggering stuff temporarily until the issue started to die down.

Of course, if you know the person well and trust them, it may be more helpful to honestly share how you feel. But, I personally would go with the more avoidant way of protecting myself. Smiler



Take care,
Saka
I don't think you need to share the roll call on your abuse with anyone. If you think they would be supportive, then it may be valuable but I dunno - for me that would be super awkward for someone just to msg a big Sexual abuse thing. If they are only an acquaintance they might not even notice if you block them. You can also remove people from your 'feed' (what you see) by setting up some groups... I've done that before with some ED triggering folks and haven't had to share what is deeply private to me with them.



I think if it would benefit you in a way to share with them, then do so otherwise maybe just block/make her stuff not visible?
Thanks, it helps to know I can just block her from my feed. I wonder if I could just block the hash tag instead? I don't really want to go into it with her. It will trigger massive denial stuff with me, so as long as I can block temporarily without her knowing (and potentially be offended), I will do that. The only person I've ever blocked, I've completely blocked from requesting to friend or even seeing me...because he is one of those four people. My dad is on my list, but I can't take him off as he or my step-mom or other family will ask questions, but luckily he never goes on, because of being angry getting in political arguments with people. Except sometimes he messages me... Anyway, good that I can block without offending her. Thanks so much for clarifying that!
Cause hash tags are a twitter thing and not really meant for FB I don't know any way of blocking them. I have an old internet acquaintance who's posts I have unsubscribed from. He hasn't hit my instantly unfriend line so he remains on my list for now.

There is a little arrow on the rhs of posts in your feed. Use the drop down and it gives you the choice of removing that single post or unfollowing that person.

I can definitely see why #yesallwomen has been so triggering. Re: talking about it, it is a tough one because your friend being able to share may be therapeutic or empowering for her but it really sucks for you to be getting triggered and it is impossible to do trigger warnings well on FB. I guess if I was having a non avoidant day and I trusted the person, I might say "I am going to take a break from your posts for a while because I am getting triggered and need to look after myself. I will be back when I'm feeling a bit safer."

But really, you don't have to face anything if you don't want to. This is about you feeling safer so if forcing yourself to have a conversation with someone who seems like just an acquaintance is going to be even more triggering then it seems totally OK to not do that.

I am really sorry this is bringing up stuff. #yesallwomen is mainly making me rage-y. I would take rage over triggered any day though. Hug two

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