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My T is back and I will see her again tomorrow. During her absence i had a couple of dodgy days at the beginiing when i felt really resentful and angry that she was off again, so soon after the last time, and then i had been ok, i had continued mynormal routine, teaching full time, and had managed a really traumatic event at work. She has texted me daily in her absence, sending smiles as I requested, and that has felt very supportive, but now I am beginning to feel anxious.

Tomorrow i will turn up unable to express my self, there will be no words, i wont tell her about work, i rarely tell her about my day to day life- there seems no need. i know that i have to go to the place where i feel bad.I have to rake it all up again, I have to go to those emotions which I don't want to experience; I will resist expressing them and I will come into conflict with my T, and eventually I might reach a place where I can feel nurtured by her, after I have raged, and fought against expressing anything - she says I have to let the feelings out, and I try but it seems like an automatic response to hold on to them, which ends up making the outbursts far worse.

So I think why am I going back, and yet I know that nothing would make me not want to go and see her.
I find this push and pull of my emotions really tiring, and wondered if anyone else experienced this.
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Hi Crootie... not sure if we met yet. Welcome to the Board.

Why don't you try something different for the first session back. Why don't you just tell her some day to day stuff that happened while she was away and how you coped with the traumatic issue at work and just all the little things that you never seem to have time to tell her when you are doing the deeper work. First session back should be a reconnecting type session. There is no rule that says you must do deep, painful, excruciating work every time you have a session. Sometimes it can be just as helpful to do a "look back" to see how far (or not) that you have come from her last vacation, what you did differently and how you were feeling.

Sometimes I just like to sit and "gaze" at my T for a few minutes when he comes back just to take him in and appreciate that he is back with me.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.

Hugs
TN
Thanks For replies.
TN - I can't even sideways glance at my T let alone 'gaze' at her!! I often think I will do just what you suggested, but the nearer I get to her place, the more closed I become, like something is silencing me. I really struggle to say anything from an Adult place, it's my little one thats desperate to get there and my critic who doesn't want me wasting time and money on passing the time of day!!
RabbitEars - it's good to know its not just me!!
Crootie, this is just how I feel. I have sessions where I talk about easier topics and it isn't so painful and I usually feel like I have wasted the session. I had my first session today after my T was on vacation and it was terrible. I left thinking maybe this is the time to quit therapy. I wrote a long blog post about my session but I won't try to say anything more than I understand how you feel and I have no idea how to keep trying.

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