Butterfly ~
glad to "see" you!
I think it makes a ton of sense to be more scared of rejection here when you are dealing with fears around ending with your T - and even if you were not dealing with that, you are so not alone in that.
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I feel really sad because I don’t want to leave here but am scared that my posts will reflect how I am feeling. That sounds really wrong I know...
It just sounds... real - it's what you feel. I'm so sorry it's so scary to share.
My T says one of the main goals of therapy with her is to let a little more of "me" show up every time. It scares me so much to do that. With her, here, with anyone. Yet she says - take small steps. Just a little more. So I do. It gets easier, and sometimes a million times harder, and then easier again...
and it helps when there's more places I can go to - like here for support. It get's less scary. Sometimes more because it's harder to share anywhere - and then I pull back, but then I come back, and it gets even easier...
I'm so sorry you are in such a dark and awful place.
It's ok to post when you are a "mess."
It's ok to share what you can, and take small steps. It's ok to vent, it's ok to just be "messy" - none of which I think you are doing at all, just saying if that's what is scary, that's ok if all those things happen. And it's not an imposition on anyone.
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When I joined it hadn’t really sunk in that I would shortly be ending therapy therefore I thought I would be ok dealing with it as I know that talking of endings on here is a very sensitive area – either others have been through their own painful endings or are not ready to end therefore not in a place to think about such things. But now it seems to be more of a reality for me and my final session is now this week I find myself falling apart in slow motion. The thought that anything I bring up in the session will not be able to be followed through is hurting so much. I feel my being new here, it is not fair to impose that on others so feel it would be best to stay away for now, I am not too sure, but I have really valued being a member here (even if only for a very short time) and hope that when I am in a better place I can offer to others.
It's ok if your stuff triggers others. It's not what any of us want - but it is each of our own jobs to handle that for ourselves... don't do my job for me.
If you think you have something that might trigger others - you can say that at the top of the post, but outside of that, you can't take care of my triggers for me and I wouldn't want you to. I for one, have been through terrible ending with a T - and I actually find it helpful to hear of others, and yes, painful too, and yet even then, ***especially*** then, I want you to share what you are going through. If you don't then... not only do you not get support, but then others miss out too - like me, on the opportunity to support you.
I know it's really super hard to believe it's ok to share. I hope you keep sharing more, and sticking around, as you can, as you feel comfortable enough to do so.
Are you meeting with your T this week? Your last session? oh, I'm so sorry for having to face that...
and please know there is no pressure to answer any of my questions, that's ok too. And for whatever amount of what I have posted is off base, please just ignore. (I do tend to stick my foot in my mouth)
i'm so glad to "see" you.
many hugs and good thoughts for this time for you,
~jane