I've told T1 about my experiences with meds and she continues to pressure me to go to a psychiatrist to get on meds. On Friday she basically told me that therapy alone isn't helping me and I either need hospitalization (which she claimed was T2s idea) or meds. I said if I have to choose between the two, I will go on meds.
So I made an appointment with a psych for next week, but after doing so I became extremely pissed off about it and texted T1:
me: I really don't feel that I am being heard when I say that I have had negative experiences with anti-depressants. I am not happy with the direction my therapy with you is headed in. I feel passed off to someone else. It feels like you don't care. I do not feel that meds are in my best interest but are instead being pushed on me to remove liability for you and T2 and make you both feel more at ease. I feel my experience with meds is being totally disregarded for your peace of mind."
T1 wrote back:
"Want to say that this has NOTHING to do with liability. I care about you and am scared you are going to die if you continue to binge and purge. I just want to keep you alive. Ultimately it is your decision if you want to take meds. I would never pass you off to anyone else and have tried to show you that I will never give up on you. My concern is genuine".
So then I felt really shitty. I texted her back:
I'm sorry for thinking that. That must have been a slap in the face after all that you have done to show me that you care. Very shitty of me and I am truly sorry. I know that you genuinely care. I don't deserve it, but I do appreciate all that you do to show it. "
and then she didn't write back. Now I'm worried that she's really pissed and/or hurt. I'm worried that I've come across as totally ungrateful and bitchy. T1 has really bent over backwards to be there for me....texting me multiple times EVERY single day and night. I mean, she really has done so much for me. She has continued to work with me even though she cannot see me in person and feels uncomfortable with the arrangement because she feels that she really should see me in person since I have an eating disorder. But she has been willing to be accomodating and flexible in the arrangement and here I go practically spitting in her face telling her she's just passing me off to someone else.
UGH. Why i am such a bitch?!!!!!!!!!!
I'm so ashamed of my behavior. I'm worried she's thinking, "what an unappreciaive little bitch. I text her every f'ing night before I go to bed and she's telling me I don't care?"
How dare i? seriously. I mean, how dare I?