My new therapist told me that she considers be have low level BPD. I am 49 and floored, especially since my previous therapist who sent me to the new one for some special work said I was not borderline but have some borderline tendencies, who doesn't?

If I review the criteria for BPD for when I was younger, I could see it. But now, I function so well. I have wonderful relationships. I'm not volatile etc.

Can you "grow out of" BPD?
How many criteria and in what frequency do you have to say yes to to be diagnosed borderline?

I am working with Marsha Linehan's workbook and DBT exercises have been recommended to me by other therapists. My current T says that previous Ts have all "danced around it" the topic of BPD, including my previous T who also supervises her for licensing.

I'm having some trust issues now about her "diagnosis" and would prefer something more definitive.

Obviously, I continue to be in by rational mind. When she told me I was sobbing.