I want to start my thanking everyone for the helpful comments and information on my earlier thread regarding my issues with my therapist.
Today I saw my therapist for the first time since she accussed me of "seducing her with my gifts". I was really nervous and struggled all week with whether or not I should cancel the appointment and give myself more time to sort things out. In the end, I decided to keep my appointment because although I was upset, hurt and confused by her behavior I still missed her terribly. This makes me feel so messed up. How could I long to see someone who has caused me so much pain?
Anyway, I kept my appointment and my therapist apologized and took all the blame for everything that has happened. She admitted to the bad boundaries, the unprofessional comments, and everything that took place. She even cried about causing me pain and said it was never her intent to hurt me. She said she wouldn't blame me if I wanted to leave and she would even give me the names of other therapists.
Of course, hearing all this made me forgive her instantly because I love her so much and want so much for her to love me. The probelm is I feel like a weakling. I feel like I would let her walk all over me just to have her love me back. The other problem is that after I left I continued to rehash everything in my head and I am now questioning her sincerity and honesty. Why am I feeling a lack of trust? Can this relationship be saved or has there been too much damage. My husband wants me to see another therapist of my choosing for another opinion and I was wondering what all you amazing folks on this site thought of that idea.
Em (The post-er previously known as Empty but kindly changed to Em)