((((((((((SG))))))))))) I'm sorry. You deserve to have your Mommy. Losing a pet is heartbreaking. I'm sorry the internet is such a poor transmitter for hugs, but I hope you get some comfort for the virtual ones anyway!

(((((SpaGirl)))))

It sucks not being cared for by our parents. It sucks a lot when you're little, but you don't necessarily know what you're missing. For me, it's sucking even worse as an adult.

Way to go, though, on being brave enough to reach out and ask! Even though your mom couldn't give you what you wanted, it took courage to ask. Hopefully there is someone that can give you a big hug, or maybe even a comfy blanket that you can wrap up in and give yourself the big hug you deserve.

(((SpaGirl)))

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your pet and that your mom was so insensitive and not there for you. It did take a lot of courage to reach out to her and it is completely understandable why you did.

I'm going to send you a hug, but because it's hard to feel them in cyber space I'm going to tell you what my T tells me when she texts me hugs....actually wrap your arms around yourself and squeeze ((((hugs)))).

Very sorry to hear about your loss of pet.

I wish you could feel my hug (((SpaGirl)).

I'm sorry for the loss of your pet and I'm more sorry that your mother acted like she did. I think it is great that you could look for support elsewhere when she didn't give it to you.

I felt every one of them! THANKS, I NEEDED THAT!!!

Now I'm going to invision one BIG GROUP HUG for ALL of US!!!

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUG))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Quick extra one from me! {{{{SpaGirl}}}}

I'm so sorry you lost your pet.

I have also been there, wanting comfort but getting a cold shoulder. BRAVO to you though for taking the risk to ask! It makes me want to cry that your mom said only if you were little.

{{{{SpaGirl}}}}

~D.

You know what hurts the most - or pisses me off the most, hard to tell which - is that when I told her that "I need my Mommie." SHE DIDN'T KNOW WHY. I thought, if I have to EXPLAIN it to her, WHAT'S THE POINT??? How can someone be so insensitive? If it doesn't pertain to HER, she has NO CLUE. I mean, if someone you know --- and YOUR DAUGHTER, no less, just lost a pet she's lived with day and night for NINE years, AND is facing a cremation for the very first time, wouldn't you sort of keep that in your mind and be compassionate to her during the process?

The saddest part is that here she is only 20-minutes from me, or a phone call away, but she's just NOT THERE. Do you know what I mean? I reach out needing comfort and it ends up in a fight (as always). Discord seems to be her only comfort.

I totally get it SpaGirl. My parents live 15 minutes away, and they are the last people I call because of their response. They aren't even listed on my emergency card at work!

It sucks. But I've tried to find a few good replacement mommies that I can call, and I can depend on. It still doesn't fill that gap, though.

(((SpaGirl))) and know you're not alone!

Hi SG,

My smpathy to you over the loss of you pet. I know that it is painful. In addition I am very sorry that your mom just doen't get it and Probably won't. That is a rejection from hell. Never could understand that type of behavior.
(((((((((((((((SG)))))))))))))))