i have a history of pushing people away. i accuse them of failing me or not meeting my needs and end relationships. im working on this with my T.
im currently dating a woman i really enjoy and often think she is letting me down but T says she isnt and this is my pattern.
and knowing this is a pattern, i still continue to feel like im bad and my girlfriend doesnt like me. she is a no nonsense kind of person, sometimes a little impatient. my T told me that if I question her and act suspicious, she may decide im too skiddish and leave me and told me not to behave that way around her since its a neurotic pattern and speak to him about it instead. he said trust that she likes you and if you are thinking she doesnt, assume its not true and come talk to me about it. he said this may be too hard to do and the relationship may fail. i think he is being realistic. but i really want things to work out.
T said that i am needy because i havent worked some things through in my life. and she said it may go well but he also said she may not tolerate my level of neediness.

im scared the relationship will fail, im even more scared it will fail because i push her away without even meaning to. i have never cared about someone the way i do about this woman. this whole thing makes me so sad. the idea that i may lose her due to my feelings of inadequacy and my improper handling of them.