This Avatar became very symbolic for me and is closely associated with oldT. Seven months after that handshake, oldT initiated a hug with me. And going forward we either shook hands or I could ask for a hug and at times we would high five. But that first handshake was special because I finally was able to touch him and to believe that he was really real. That he really existed and he was my T.
That relationship is over now. I can't ever see him again or touch him again. He shook my hand again at the end of our final session last month. It hurts to look at this avatar and it keeps me grieving the past. It's really hard to let it go but I don't think I have a choice any longer. He is gone forever.
I have a new T now and he is truly my light. I need to try to focus on getting well and the future. I need to understand that things are different now. Not worse, just different. I am very fortunate to have a good, caring T who says he likes me. His light has kept me safe this past year and his light is the beacon I need when the sea gets too rough or I'm lost in a storm. He is always there, steady and strong lighting my way back to shore.
And so I have decided on a new avatar.
Thanks for letting me ramble.
TN