For the past ten days I have felt either very detached or triggered by my T. I am not sure what is going on. Today I went to see him after giving him an article to read last Thursday and I told him how triggered I was by his pushing me so hard last week.
I had told him last week that I was really furiously angry with him but I could not express it. I told him I could not really express it because I didn't want to hurt him even though I was mad at him. I don't know why I was mad at him. I just could not explain how I was feeling.
Of course he was thrilled I was angry and was trying to get me to talk to him and express it more forcefully but I just retreated.
Today he told me he has been pushing me because he can see how detached and desolate I have become since C died and he said he will not "lose" me to his. He said he sees my withdrawal and that I have not been engaging with him for the past 4 sessions. I didn't realize this but I do know that things just don't seem so important to me now. I feel like I'm lost in the land of "gray". It seems like it's just too much effort to engage with T and I'm not even sure that getting better matters any longer.
What's the point?
I keep losing people who are so important to me. When I lost C I lost all hope because he was there even when we were not in constant contact. He was still part of my life. There was always hope we could be close again. I don't remember my life without him in it. There are not many people left who matter. It's a very small group now. And honestly, I don't want to add anyone else. I don't even have the energy to care.
T is pushing because he wants to help me. I know he cares and wants me to get better. But all this is doing is pushing me further away from our relationship.
It all a huge mess now.
TN