Hi HB,

Thanks so much for posting this. First, congrats on such wonderful growth. You sound like you are in such a really great place.

Second, it is great to hear how your relationship evolved, and how you did too!

Honestly, it was especially nice to see your post tonight, when my T is out of town and I am feeling overly. . .dependant.

WhereamI

I'm so happy for you HB! Congrats on all your hard work. And thanks for giving us some hope for the other side of things. You are amazing and I'm so glad things are working for you!

Glad to hear your uncle is doing well!

-CT

HB.. you worked hard at therapy and now are seeing the good results. I'm glad that you are feeling so much more complete. And it's has to be reassuring to know that your T is still there if you do need him. I think you should be proud of yourself for adjusting so well to your new home and new life. This is never easy for me. I don't like change but I'm working on this.

I did read a post of yours about the crime and the break in's. What happened to your uncle? I didn't see anything on that. I hope all will settle down and that you stay safe. Thanks for updating us.

TN

Good for you, HB! It's so exciting to hear this news!

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So i guess i just wanted to say that there is life after therapy and that it is wonderful to be able to grow and leave behind old patterns that no longer have a place in my life. What i have discovered is that the specialness many of us want comes from being completely ourselves, that we are already special just by being us, we seem to miss it though until we really can be true to ourselves.

I love what you said. It's beautiful.

I've had a similar realization. For a couple of weeks, I had been feeling good and doing really well. The need inside of me that is now for my T, but has been for others in my life, was gone during that time. Something happened that threw me off, and the need came back. I kept feeling this longing for my mom, my T, and "home." Then, when I was home, I'd still feel the need for home. I realized that when I'm secure and strong and truly at one with myself, home is inside of me. I no longer have the need, because I'm at home with myself. Anyway, I just saw the similarities.

Glad you're doing so well.

Cat

Hi HB,

I was wondering if you'd be willing to share how you knew it was time for you to end therapy and what kind of issues came up as you were ending?...mlc(maybe you posted about it somewhere else on this site and I missed it?)

HB,
That is so awesome and so full of hope for those of us still struggling to get there. I loved what you said about our wanting to feel special being fulfilled from within ourselves. I have had the occasional glimpse of that and its wonderful to hear that it can blossom into a steady presence. Thanks so much for telling us about it.

And I'm glad to hear you're starting to get settled in. That kind of move is very stressful, especially when its not by choice but I knew you would rise to the challenge beautifully. I hope one day when I grow up, I'm more like you.

AG

HB,

In my busyness I just read your post.
Isn't this what it's all about?? Sounds like you've been becoming your own Self....equal and valid and whole. This is why therapy is so exciting! It's about maturing and it's awesome that we can find that opportunity after our childhood/teenage years.

I loved reading about your progress.

Hope you have a marvelous day.

Karie