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Do you respect your T?

beccabeccaMember
The last few sessions with my T have started out rough but we got through our difficulties and had, in my mind, really connecting sessions. I called T yesterday to see if I could come in. I was having a very difficult time with some issues about my SO's, 17 year old daughter. These happened to be colliding with some of my issues right now in therapy. I needed answers quick and T got me in and told me I did the right thing by coming in. I don't take coming in on short notice lightly because I am having money problems. She walked me through this issue that was completely out of my league. I couldn't have done it without her.

After I left, I realized how much I respect her. She told me she could tell by the sound of my voice that I needed to come in. I think she gave up her lunch. I now think the number one key to success in therapy is respect. Everything else must come from that. Any thoughts?
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True NorthTrue NorthCo-moderator
I have huge respect for my T. I don't think I could work with him if I didn't respect him... especially after what happened with oldT. I respect his knowledge and experience. I also respect him for the way he handles boundaries and how he always protects his patient's privacy. I also have huge respect for him in how committed he was to my healing from the very beginning. He has told me he knew it would be a long, hard, challenging road but once he made he commitment he would never turn back, no matter what.

He tells me he has respect for me too. I think it's a good thing that it's mutual with us.

TN
catalystcatalystMember
Smiler I think I am respectful of people in general - I haven't really pushed my Ts but during a bad rupture with T2 last year I did get quite disrespectful... I lost all respect for her for a bit and we've since worked it out - I didn't feel respected either.

I'm not sure if it is disrespect, but I was one nasty patient for the first couple years. Whether it was fear or protection I did very much push back. That said, I'm extremely conscious of time, my appointments, being responsible. I think it's mutual.
ljbljbMember
Yes, I do respect my T. I value his opinion on things, I take what he says into account, even though it is hard for me to hear, at times. I value the fact that he challenges me on all different levels of my life, without coming off as a know-it-all.

I've been lucky because I have respected all 3 of the T's I have had in my past. But, like others have said, I think the respect is mutual, too.

LJB

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