My T doesn't have a page on facebook. Thank goodness. But I do have a photo of her from her website that I look at often. It's an attachment thing, I think.

My T's facebook page is set to about as private as you can get. And she doesn't have a picture of herself as the profile picture. I know this because yes, I googled her! There's a whole thread about my google discovery back in February.

I agree, it isn't stalkerish, it's an attachment thing like Alpaca said. I do have a picture of my T that I found, and she's ok with me having it. To open the picture and see her face when I'm in a bad space is incredibly comforting.

I think Ts have to be used to being googled or facestalked, it kind of goes with the territory. I actually google all my doctors/health care providers so I can be a little more familiar with their background/areas of expertise.

Thank you! I don't feel so weird now!
My T has her FB page as open as you can get. I think that's strange. I have mine as private as I can get it.

They can't tell who has looked at their page. If My T had one - I would be looking at it all the time

I have a photo of her, a book she has loaned me, some of her handwriting. I need these for attachment so that I can remember her as I forget easily.

If i had her FB page - i would be using that to. I have googled her and other significant ppl - i just need it to feel connected and if I find some information - I feel calmer.

My T doesn't have a FB page or even a picture of herself anywhere on the Internet. I've looked several times to try and find something! I just want to know something about her. She doesn't talk about herself at all. I have no idea if she's married, has kids, even what age group she's in because kind of one of this who looks between 40-60!

I am so glad my T does not have a FAcebook page and Room 2Grow is right, clients looking them up on the internet comes with the territory. they should know that.

I google my T periodically. I cannot find ANYthing about him except that he teaches at a university and is a clinical psychology senior tutor for placements in this county.

I have a photo of him as I took my camera in one day and asked if I could take a picture (what brazen cheek!) and he said yes. So i have a lovely picture of him in the pose he is always in, sitting in on his low chair facing me with the window behind him. I LOVE that picture, it was on my screen saver until my best friend died this month and now hers is on it instead.

I don't think it is stalking, I think it is true small child attachment stuff. And my husband says sometimes it is 'due diligence' as we need to know if our T's are okay -

I want to know my T's birthday. I could pay money on the net and get that information but I just cannot do that. I am going to ask him. I think he will tell me. Then I will give him a present and a card then too.

He might say no.

I would tell your T that you can read her Facebook page and is she aware of that. That would be the adult response.

Of course she might then change her settings so it is a risk from your point of view.

"Face stalkers"- yea, that's what we are. Me too. someone set up a fb pg for my T, but he has never seen it. He did not even know that he has a pg. There is a picture of him, but he's never posted. And I do look at it from time to time. Yup! I'm a facestalker.

Well everyone, I would say it's perfectly normal to google our Ts, mostly because I do it She's referenced 000's of times on the internet with all her writings and papers etc but her fp page is tighter than a fish's a*#e!!! I'm very lucky as I do have a very lovely photo that I downloaded before the fb page went into lockdown and it helps me enormously when needed and I turn it over at other times !!

Seriously it is SO understandable that when we need then but can't reach out - in my instance there is no outside of session phone or email contact - to google just the name helps a little !!!

So everyone for the new year 2012, let's not feel like stalkers for googling our Ts - let's just do what we need to do to feel connected!
s, Morgs