I ask this question because I feel like that. I feel like I am looking for reasons to justify why I turned out the way I did instead of just dealing with who I am right now.
Although part of it is that I just always felt bad about myself and taking a look at where that feeling came from HAS definitely helped me feel better about myself.
Something has been on my mind lately and I want to tell T and although he has been very receptive to everything I want to talk about, I have this gnawing sense that I'm trying to make more of a trauma background than I have.
Tell me what you guys think. I always like the validation. But be honest. Just don't give me the validation if you can't.
We were on the train going to Florida. I was 7 or 8? Maybe? I realized recently that anytime we went on vacation, my parents always told me to go make friends. So, I made a friend on the train. We were running through the cars of the training being really obnoxious, blowing bubbles in the faces of the passengers and running away. It really was the other girls idea. I was just being a follower. Seriously. You can believe me.
The train stopped in Virginia and I guess my mother suddenly got worried about me. She thought I got off the train. So she started to look for me. When she found me, she was so upset that she grabbed me by the hair and dragged me through all the cars of the train to the dining car. There was no empty seats at my family's table and so my mother, who still had me by the hair, pulled me by the hair and placed me down at a table with another family I didn't know.
Everyone in the dining car saw her pulling me by the hair and I was completely and totally and utterly mortified. And there I sat with these complete strangers.
I've never really given the incident much thought but lately it's been on my mind.
Just wondering what your thoughts are on it. I know I was being a bratty 7 year old.
I want to talk about it with T but I don't want to just tell him to get his empathy. I'm not really sure I need to talk to him about it.