I'm a new member to the site, and it has been so helpful to discover a place where I don't feel like all of my worries about therapy are entirely crazy! I do have a specific question though, and it is one I have been struggling with for a few weeks. I'm sorry this is long, but I tend to be a little verbose...
I am a student at a university, and last September, I went into the counseling center on campus on a whim. Long story short, I ended up with a great therapist. By the way, I have never done anything with therapy prior to this. Anyway, the catch about all of this is that I am limited to 10 sessions per academic year. I had my 10th session about 3 weeks ago. I started group therapy this semester, and it is incredibly hard for me. I had enough of an issue being open with my T in individual therapy, let alone being open with 6 other people and two group leaders. My last two sessions with my T overlapped with group therapy, and she "prepped" me for my sessions. She also told me that with the time limit, I really have to put myself out there so that the other group members and the group leaders can get to know me so that I can benefit from group. My last two sessions also involved pinpointing specific problems that I have so that I can tell the group that this is, specifically, what I hope to change. She wrote this down and told me that it would be a very good idea if I could try and say everything that was written on the paper. Needless to say, I nearly had a panic attack in her office, because the idea of being as open as she was describing was so intimidating and scary.
But that's not really my main issue with all of this. The big thing I'm having a hard time with is trying to convince myself that this is all worth it. There's a very small chance that I could maybe get a few more sessions with my T over the summer (since I'm staying up at school for summer classes) through a case extension, but they are rare, and I more than likely I can't, and that means that if I want to start up individual therapy again, I'd have to wait until September. Also, there are only 6 group therapy sessions left before the semester is over. I know that a lot can be accomplished in 6 sessions, but I have such a hard time thinking that it's worth making attachments and getting relief in ways I never have when it will all be over by May. Towards the end of my time in individual therapy, I was just starting to get a little more comfortable and disclosing more about things that I truly think. Not feel, though...not yet, considering emotional numbness is one of the things I'm trying to get rid of. Anyway, I was really starting to notice the benefits of my time in individual by the time I couldn't go anymore. I don't think it will get to quite the same level with group therapy, but I am extremely hesitant to open up very much, because I'm going to lose the support I feel in group therapy as well. I have never truly had support from someone else, so to get a taste of it and then go back to the way things were is scary and depressing. Of course, I know that things don't have to go back to the way they were, but my patterns of behavior have been so ingrained in me that I know that they won't be resolved come May.
I know I should continue with group therapy, and I will, but how can I let myself reap the benefits when I'm feeling such a strong urge to clam up as a mode of protection? Case in point, this past week I could have (and should have) talked about the nearly unbearable week spent with my narcissistic father and co-narcissistic mother, but it's such a private subject that would have pretty much forced me to establish more trust with the other group members. So I clammed up and glossed over the week when we went around the group for our weekly "check-ins," which are just brief blurbs regarding our week and a time where we can speak up and say that, later in the session, we want to talk about something that's bothering us. In individual therapy, even though I knew I only had 10 sessions, I would still feel strong urges to tell my T things, despite the risks. Yet, in group therapy, I only had the urge because of obligation, not because I really wanted to talk about it.
And the other thing I keep wondering about is if I should contact my T to try and get more sessions at all, since it will be the same cycle all over again.
Thanks for listening to my ramblings, everyone. :]