Hi,
Don't feel weird, I do it every week and I am still seeing T
The evening after T, I write a short e-mail, sometimes i have something to say about the session, but often I just say a few words and send a picture.
It helps that lost feeling I get when I have to leave because the time has run out!

(((CD)))
Yes I do that quite a bit even though I see T every week. Last Saturday I sent a text to just say Happy Birthday! I guess on average I send one e-mail or text a week.

I shouldn't feel wierd about it; I'm sure he'd love to hear from you

AV.

Yeah, I've emailed my former T just to say hi and let her know how I was doing. She's always responded really positively.

(((CD)))

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i dearly miss him and have an itch to send an email just to literally say "hi". anybody ever do that?

I say, "Go for it"! I don't think it's weird.

i done it and i feel better, thanks for your encouragement everybody!
i guess i just feel like i need some kind of connection after all this time. i think i've been feeling it, but fighting it, stupidly. can't ever appear to be needy, you know? right now i don't even feel like i need a response. but i'm sure if i don't get one i will be crushed to nothing.

thanks again!

((((CD))))

Keep us posted! I hate waiting for the response. It can be really hard. Did he typically answer on Fridays or over the weekend?

I do that as well, deny my needs. It seems to only make the need stronger and then I get obsessive about it. Why does it have to be so complicated?

he did reply once on a Saturday morning. i'm not going to hold my breath. i DO feel better for having sent it, though. i thought i would be full of trepidation. and yes, obsessive is the right word! i don't know why it has to be so complicated! it's so frustrating! i will keep you posted one way or the other.

((((CD))))

I hope he gets back to you quickly.

thanks, Liese
i just got back from a Bob Seger concert and Kid Rock opened. it was phenomenal to say the least. i won't check emails tonight. if there's no answer i know i'll be more disappointed than is warranted. i'll check tomorrow when i'm a little less inebrieated. thanks again. i'm going to get some sleep and i'll let you know what happened, if anything tomorrow. thanks for your support and interest. talk soon.

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I shouldn't feel wierd about it; I'm sure he'd love to hear from you

AV, that's super sweet. thanks

i sent him an email that basically said i had a strong desire to say hi, so i said hi and said i hoped that life was being good to him. he responded with a smiley face. i don't know what i was expecting other than maybe a few words. would i have been disappointed no matter what? i feel like i wasn't being fair to him by sending the email. really, what was i hoping for?

(((((CD)))))



You know him so much better than we do. Was he always short on words like that? Maybe there was a reason you stopped going to him? He wasn't giving you the security you needed?

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really, what was i hoping for?

How about, "Thank you for checking in on me. It was nice to hear from you. How have you been? I want to remind you that my door is always open."

oh, im sorry ((cd)) that answer must be beyond disappointing! i am really disappointed for you and i don't even know him.
i hate it when Ts are so careful not to say the 'wrong' thing and try not to influence you or give you too much hope etc, and end up saying nothing at all!! but this is much worse then a little hope isn't it?



puppet

Well a few words would have been nice, but maybe he was trying to be neutral so as not to stir up more feelings of missing him or encouraging you to reply, which could lead to more correspondence etc.
Maybe he also was not sure if it really was just saying Hi, or if you were opening up to say something more.

i am disappointed, but not crushed. i guess if he was going to respond at all it would have been nice to receive something a little more human and adult-to-adult, like how some of your Ts have responded. the reason i'm not crushed (i'm pretty sensitive and normally would be) is i'm thinking he may have responded that way for a reason. i might write my thoughts later just to put it into words and get your thoughts on it. i really appreciate your guys' input. i don't know how clients from back in the day made it through more than a week or two of therapy without the support of others. it really is tough work!

((((CD))))

I applaud your reaction to his reply to you. I'm certain he responded that way to you for a good reason and probably thought about what kind of response would be best for you in the long term. That he replied with a smiley face tells me he was pleased to hear from you.

My T will often respond in a similar way if she feels it's appropriate, and i kind of like getting a smiley from her. I like to believe she had that smile on her face IRL when she read my message to her!!

I just posted a similar topic without realizing you had already posted this.
I'm glad you were able to get a smiley out of T. That's at least a good response.

BTW-I miss my former T and am thinking about calling her or FB messaging her to give her an update. I don't know if I have the courage to do that though. I don't want to either hear nothing from her or something that tells me to not do that. I don't think she would say that, but I don't know if I want to event try. I miss her sooooo much though.