well, that is an easy question. Not!

I sometimes fall out of love with my husband and I have to reconnect by having time with him and laughing with him and being intimate with him and giggling a lot and just hanging out like we did when we were courting. I work at it sometimes and other times I am just madly in love with him, (fortunately the latter at the moment - cept I am missing him a lot as I am away from home) I am not saying deep or wise things, but I wanted to post as I saw that people had not posted to you yet so thought I could at least make a move to show you that I read your post and care and wish you well in your falling back in love with her. It is perfectly normal. I have been with my husband for nearly 30 years. If I left him every time I fell out of love with him, it would be like a yo yo - sometimes we are simply living in the same space - life is like that when married sometimes. Maybe you mean romantic love? And that wears off to the more nitty gritty love of daily married life with its occasionaly moments of passion and more mundane supportive caring and kindness to each other.

jeff - could you maybe give more details on this? How long have you been married? Is there something specifically that has changed? Have you tried marital counseling together? Is it that you are becoming interested in others or just losing interest in your wife? H and I always look at our relationship like love is a choice. It's not something that you always have in you overflowing passionately, the way people considering feeling "in love," which comes and goes throughout a relationship. Those feelings are a return on an investment in a relationship, but they are not the relationship itself, IMHO. Sometimes, we need help from the outside to identify some blockages or patterns that make the choice to love harder. I could be wrong on this. That's just my sense of things. I have been with my husband since just before I was 18, so over 12 years now, and married for eight years in June. So, if you've been married much longer, you may be more of an expert than I am.

Maybe get a separation. If you don't miss her, perhaps you two are better off apart. If you do miss her, this will help you develop feelings of love and longing for her again.

Do you two make time for each other, like a weekly date night? (no kids, no phone calls, no distractions. Just you two).