Muff ~ Thank you SO much for posting and sharing not only what Dr. Miller said, but your journey as well. I can't express how it has helped me right now, but is has really encouraged me to take the next step with my T who I think does do therapy simillar to Alice Miller's type of therapy and helped me understand this stuff better. Thank you! jane

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I disagree with Miller. I come from a childhood background of emotional and physical abuse from parents who are religious fanatics - thus they believe they can do no wrong because "god" is on their side. Also some sexual abuse but that came from a family friend (parents denied it and covered it up).

As a young adult, I have started to feel intense bouts of rage which surface now and then. During my bouts of rage, I find it hard to function - I can't concentrate at work or in class, I feel extremely angry, I SI and take out my anger inappropriately on authority figures (like my college professors). I would do anything to suppress this rage. I wish so much I could magically forget about my life before age 20 and move on with it.

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The weight of denied feelings can be gigantic and very destructive."

I have read your previous enties greenleaf, and some of Dr Alice Millers beliefs and concepts.

I think she has a great understanding of where you are coming from as far as your past experiences are concerned, and why you feel the way you do today.

I can only speak from the experience of long term therapy that helped me face my repressed rage, vent it in a controlled manner, and at the same time function in my today world. Without it I am sure I would not be here today in any capacity.

I was also desperate for the right kind of help at your age. I sincerly hope you can find it.



LOOKING FOR A THERAPIST
Tuesday November 18, 2008
" AM: Certainly, if I knew of some therapists who would be respectful enough to answer your questions; free enough to show indignation about what your parents have done to you; empathic enough when you need to release your rage pent up for decades in your body; wise enough to not preach to you forgetting, forgiveness, meditation, positive thinking; honest enough to not offer you empty words like spirituality, when they feel scared by your history, and that are not increasing your life-long feelings of guilt – I would be happy to give you their names, addresses and phone-numbers.
Unfortunately, I don't know them, but I still like to hope that they exist. However, when I am looking for them on the Internet I find plenty of esoteric and religious offers, plenty of denial, commercial interests, traditional traps, but not at all what I am looking for. For that reason I gave you with my FAQ list tools for your own research. If a therapist refuses to answer your questions right from the start, you can be sure that by leaving him you can save yourself your time and your money. If you don't dare to ask your questions out of your fear of your parents, your fear may be highly understandable. However, trying to do it anyway may be useful because your questions are important and by daring to ask them you can only win." Dr Alice Miller.

Thanks Muff. I'm currently in religious counseling through a church. This is tricky because my parents were fanatics who used their religion to cover their abuse, and I have a poor view of religion. But it is really low-cost, which is all I can afford, so I do appreciate the church providing it.

I think rage is an incredibly scary emotion to feel. Especially for women who are taught to repress rage...perhaps you can relate to this.

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